feeling forced into a transmasc/transfem box?
Not sure if any other nonbinary folk feel this way, but I strictly don't identify as transitioning to "masc" or "fem" in any way. I'm just becoming more like "me" in whatever way that looks like. Sometimes I like to be masc, sometimes I like to be fem. People look at me, take a guess at my AGAB, and think of me as going from one binary to another, even if they know I'm nonbinary. Or worse, they assume I'm just transitioning to a binary and don't pass very well, and assume those binary pronouns on me.
Anyone else deal with this? I see a lot of transmasc/transfem nonbinary folk around (which is perfectly lovely! Love you guys!) but I'm just fed up with it being in reference to me, lol. I can definitely relate to some of the experiences of folks who do identify as tmasc/tfem and have found resources that have helped me in those spaces, but I myself don't identify as that and it's frustrating to feel like I HAVE to. I just wanna be Me, yknow?
Edit: Not looking for any kind of suggestion on a label/identity, I know what I am & what I'm not! Just looking to see if any people have experienced similar frustrations. I don't identify as trans-neutral either, I'm aware of the term but it's still not quite resonated with the way I experience my identity.