u/FirefighterWeird5026

My partner and I are getting married in less than seven weeks. One of the biggest issues is we have faced is figuring out where we want to live. I lived in LA for years and decided to move to Seattle to be with her. Seattle is great, but it is not Los Angeles. We then decided to move to The Bay Area. Now I like The Bay, but my heart is not in it. I have felt like I have always made concessions in this relationship. I am always the one bending.

A month or two ago, I began looking at real estate in the LA area and told her about it. She has property and I am looking to buy. When I told her of this, she became a bit angry and thought it was unfair for us to move to a place of mine and build up equity. I replied, "We live in your place in Seattle and are doing the same thing." She then shot back with, "Well the market is different in California. I then shook my head and said "Okay, I will look somewhere else." Once again, making a move I do not want to.

I love my woman; she is smart and beautiful and caring. But she is also critical and controlling. She barely likes to admit when she is wrong and can be jealous. I just feel like I am always the one making the concession, you know? In my gut, I feel like it could be like this forever. I do not want to hurt her, but man, I feel like I am always bending.

Let me start off by saying that I love my lady. She is smart, beautiful, funny, and caring. We have been together for four years and the relationship has been good. However, with every relationship, there are some negatives. She is very controlling, criticizes me alot, and likes to take control of nearly every situation we are in. It is like she does not trust me to make decisions.

I moved to Seattle from LA to be with her. The night before, I cried and said, "I am compromising myself again." I love LA and never wanted to leave, but she lived up there and I decided to try it. In the two years being here, I hate it, so we decided to relocate to SF. I like SF, even love it at times, but it aint LA. I tried to convince her to come with me, but she would say "LA has no culture...." Once again, I am not getting what I want.

These past couple of months of planning the wedding and being so inundated with it has made me question a lot of things. "Can I be with this person forever? Am I making the right decision?" I spoke with my best friend about it and I broke down and cried. I felt so overwhelmed.

There have been plenty of times I wanted to leave, but I couldn't do it because I am not good with breaking hearts. Everyone is excited about the wedding. Doing this will crush her, family, and friends. However, I feel like if I do this, I will betray myself and what I want.

Let me start off by saying that I love my lady. She is smart, beautiful, funny, and caring. We have been together for four years and the relationship has been good. However, with every relationship, there are some negatives. She is very controlling, criticizes me alot, and likes to take control of nearly every situation we are in. It is like she does not trust me to make decisions.

I moved to Seattle from LA to be with her. The night before, I cried and said, "I am compromising myself again." I love LA and never wanted to leave, but she lived up there and I decided to try it. In the two years being here, I hate it, so we decided to relocate to SF. I like SF, even love it at times, but it aint LA. I tried to convince her to come with me, but she would say "LA has no culture...." Once again, I am not getting what I want.

These past couple of months of planning the wedding and being so inundated with it has made me question a lot of things. "Can I be with this person forever? Am I making the right decision?" I spoke with my best friend about it and I broke down and cried. I felt so overwhelmed.

There have been plenty of times I wanted to leave, but I couldn't do it because I am not good with breaking hearts. Everyone is excited about the wedding. Doing this will crush her, family, and friends. However, I feel like if I do this, I will betray myself and what I want.