u/Firm-Balance6803

I live about 40 minutes away from my parents who are in their early 70s now. Their other grandkids are adults now but I had kids later than my sister so my kids are under 6. My parents never ask to visit. I really only see them now on birthdays and holidays. I don’t really make the trip over there as it’s tough with one of my kids being in school.

Now that it’s summer break. I have been wanting to go to the gym for one day a week outside my home gym. I felt bad for not making more of an effort to bring the kids over there so I thought to myself they would probably love it if I brought them over so I can go to the gym. That way they can get some grandkid time while I workout. I texted my mom and her response was “ that’s fine for just an hour or two.”
I guess I was hoping for a more enthusiastic response? Why does it seem like that’s more of a chore for them. They aren’t disabled. Now I don’t want to even follow up on this now since I feel like I have to rush back. Maybe I’m being too sensitive? Ugh.

My son (turning 6) has ASD1 and we decided to have a birthday party for him. It’s going to be at a park and pretty low key. He doesn’t have any real friends yet so we thought it might be a good opportunity for him to make friends and for us also to get to know the parents. We moved to this school during half the school year.

We sent out invitations 3 weeks ago in the folders. We invited about 40 kids (2 classes). Only a handful have rsvp’d on their own. 2 are going and the 3 others can’t. The parents I did kind of know I chased down on the last day of school and asked, so those 3 are coming. The rest have not rsvpd. I only have one number of someone else I will check in with this week, but
no one else I have phone numbers or a contact list.

Seriously, is this typical with this age group? I don’t get it. I always make sure to rsvp and actually go when we do get a birthday invite. Is it because my son is ND and sometimes has meltdowns at school? Is it because I am shy and ND too? Wtf is wrong with people?

The cherry on top is texting my mom and trying to vent but I was told “well, if it was a at a kid trampoline park they would probably want to go.” Seriously, wtf.