Husband cheated on me with an escort after his mothers death
I’ve been with my husband for 15 years married for 14, we have 3 kids together 6, 11 (special needs) and 12, my husbands mother was a big part of our lives best grandma to our kids. She had cancer and I took care of her at her home that’s near our house. I started drinking around Mother’s Day and went into detox on May 18th after a huge drinking binge. I was devastated when she passed and everytime I would bring her up he said he hated talking about it. He was a mamas boy and I would also like to mention she left him two paid off houses and stock and other valuable things in a trust.
Last Thurs he went out to get drunk and came home around 12 am, when I woke up at 6 am he was gone I had a missed call from him but my ringer was off, I did my normal routine getting the kids ready for school and after I dropped off my oldest son I went to his moms to see if he was there. Our youngest was with me but I had her wait in the car. When I walked into his moms (messy) house he was on the recliner sleeping with our sons sonic blanket. I found an empty 3 pack of condoms on the table, a beatbox in the kitchen (he doesn’t drink these) and a tampon in the bathroom trash. I pulled the blankets off him and his zipper was all the way down. Later after going thru his phone and I found this girl and looked her up online she was on escort sites, insta (fake influencer and sells hair extensions). He still won’t tell me what happened saying he doesn’t remember but he drive drunk that night which he never does since his dui in 2009. I felt the intuition that something was off the night he came home and he still won’t tell me anything just that he feels like a loser and he fucked everything up. He said he was mad. He wants me to go to couples counseling but idk if I can move past this. He said he doesn’t need an sti test but he’ll do one if I need to reassured most likely gaslighting me. I called her from his phone one night and she threatened to send someone to beat me up and I just keep thinking about him screwing someone else. I hate being in a room with him. I contacted lawyers but they said my chances of receiving anything is bare (CA) I’m so scared to start all over but I don’t know if I can move past this… any advice would help from other women who have been in the same situation. He works as a mechanic me for the government.