I’m confused on the change of rules, I’m going away and plan on bringing a vape, in package as my holiday treat🤣🤣. It will be a boxed hayati one, does this need to go in the clear plastic bag or will I look a total tit for doing that? Thanks x
I met someone through work, a client (not uncommon in my industry, most professionals end up married to clients). We had a few appointments together when he invited me to go for food.
He was the picture of a gentleman, we had food and drinks then he drove me home. This became a regular occurrence, I’m starting to think maybe at first this wasn’t romantic but it definitely was by date 3. There had never been a mention of previous relationships, we’d talk about our friends, I knew about his family, even when he was purely a client he never mentioned a partner.
Looking back his working hours are almost perfect for a “secret family” I even joked about it to my friend once. He works 6 days a week with provided, shared accommodation in my city, he travels home for one day a week to a house he owns in a city about 4 hours away. I was under the impression he would go back to see his parents and work on his house as it was a renovation project.
After a few weeks, maybe months of texting every day, his Facebook came up on my suggested. I looked and there it said “Engaged” I scrolled further to see he’d been with his partner for 8 years. I was still in denial thinking maybe they’d split and he hadn’t thought to change it, there was no images of them together until I went on threads and saw them on holiday less than a year ago.
I sent him a screenshot of it, and after some time he responded. “Guilty” then went on to say he is deeply sorry for not making his intentions clear in the beginning, and that he wants to stay being friends. I replied a long the lines of I can’t be friends with someone who keeps that a secret and how must she feel about the entire situation. He replied apologising for what he did, saying he got caught in a moment and wasn’t thinking of the consequences of his actions etc. He wants to explain everything to me in person and is taking full accountability for his actions, no excuses or begging.
My dilemma isn’t whether to stay with him, I’ve immediately ended things. My dilemma is whether I should reach out to her. He truly does not seem like the person to do this with multiple people, his reaction has shown that, but he did immediately remove engaged off his Facebook which made me feel sick. His socials are small, he doesn’t have any female followers other than family, me and his fiancé.
I know many people would immediately say to tell her, but I am around 6 years younger than both of them. My life is in a completely different place, I can’t help but feel I would be ruining her life by telling her. We never slept together, it never went further than a kiss, there was no conversations about a relationship. She knows where I work, it’s not hard to find me online at all. They are a young love sort of couple, I don’t think it’s my place to get involved.
I feel disgusted to be the side chick, I don’t know whether I’d feel guiltier for telling her and destroying her life, or keeping it from her completely,