u/FirmTart1405

I’m genuinely frustrated right now. I had a doctor’s appointment, and my mom was my ride. When the nurse called me back, I assumed I’d be going in alone, but then I looked behind me and saw my mom following right into the room. At that point, I already knew how things were going to go.

Ever since I was a kid, every doctor’s visit has been the same. They weigh me, and as soon as my mom sees the number, she starts making a scene in front of the doctors and nurses. She’ll say things like, “How are you this heavy?” and make exaggerated reactions while giving me judgmental looks for the rest of the appointment. Every time it happened, I’d spend weeks trying to lose weight, only to end up gaining it back later.

Because of years of those comments, I’ve developed a really unhealthy relationship with both food and doctor’s appointments. I don’t even feel comfortable wearing a bathing suit or going swimming anymore, which is sad because I used to love swimming. I wear jackets all the time because she’s constantly commenting on my body, and covering up at least helps me avoid some of those remarks.

At my appointment today, she did exactly what she’s always done. She followed me into the exam room, watched them measure my weight, and immediately started making comments. Even the nurse looked uncomfortable because of how awkward the situation was. After the appointment, she kept talking about how I need to exercise more and lose weight.

What makes it even more frustrating is that when I was thinner, I worked out regularly. I’d set up my own little workout space and stay consistent, but she would constantly come downstairs and interrupt me, criticize me, or otherwise make it difficult to focus. Eventually, I stopped because I got tired of being bothered every time I exercised.

For the entire week, she’s been making comments about my body both privately and in front of other people, and it’s honestly embarrassing. I’m a grown woman. I know how to take care of myself, and if I decide I want to lose weight or improve my fitness, that’s something I can handle on my own. I don’t need constant criticism or unsolicited comments about my body from anyone.

Always look like you’re going through something. If you look like a ray of sunshine they will come after you like a pack of hyenas.

Hi, I wanna go natural but I genuinely don’t know how to manage my hair because all I was taught growing up was to never leave my hair in its natural state. I’d either be forced to braid it with synthetic hair or straighten it, but now I genuinely want to stop switching up my hair and being afraid to leave it natural for more than 2 days. Also my hair has been shoulder length for so long and I want it to grow.

The thing is, I don’t know how to manage it while it’s natural. I don’t know how to style it, how to wash it, and how to keep it from being tangled or breaking all the time—which is driving me crazy. I’d ask my friend who has really long 4c hair but she’s hesitant on telling me so I decided to come on here and ask. I also tried researching myself and there’s so much products that people are recommending and so much things I need to remember, and so many netizens say one thing and then the other, which is overwhelming. Like I didn’t realize 4c hair needed so much things to it. And I’m so exhausted because so many people said coconut oil is good for hair and now I’m finding out it’s not and Ive been using it, which didn’t even help at all.

I’m literally about to shave it guys😭