AITA my dad is getting married on parents anniversary
My mom passed away twelve years ago when I was in my early twenties from an auto immune disease. My dad has been sad and depressed ever since which is understandable. About 8 years ago after he retired he up and sold the family home and then told me and my sibling he was moving a couple states away. I visited him once but life has gotten really busy with little kids and it's too expensive to travel. He used to visit a couple times a year and then it became once a year and now we haven't seen him in two years. If I don't reach out to him all we get is an occasional text. I found out he was dating someone through Instagram six months ago. Then about 4 weeks ago he text out of the blue asking my thoughts on him getting married. I was honestly kinda hurt due to the lack of involvement in my families life and a little of the pain of losing my mom. I told him I wanted him to be happy though. He text last week that he is getting married in three weeks and they are eloping for an island wedding. It hurts to not be included and not meet her first but the worst part is the day they are getting married is my parents anniversary. I brought this up to my dad and told him there are 364 other perfectly fine days and to pick another. He says I'm just trying to keep him miserable and my sibling told me I'm making it a big deal it's just a day now, to stop being so emotional. So am I the A hole for being upset about the date?