I [32M] am not sure if I should fully move in with my partner [42F] after living together for a year
Me [32M] leaving my single apartment to move in with my partner [42F]. We have been dating for one and a half years, and we’ve been living together for the last year while I still maintain my apartment lease. The thing is that I’m planning to end my lease and fully move in with her, but I’m scared.
I don’t even know if I see a future with her. I’m sure that I enjoy her company and that my life with her has been much happier. The thing is that I’m still not sure if I want to have kids, or if the age gap will make me lose attraction to her in the coming years. I feel bad for having these thoughts, but I don’t think either of them is necessarily a bad thing.
We have had many fights, as normal couples do, but we usually fix our issues quickly. I don’t want my insecurities to win, and I don’t want to leave and regret it for the rest of my life, but I also don’t want to end my lease, move in with her, and then realize things will not work out.
There are things about her that I don’t like (i.e., she earns one-third of my salary, she has huge student loan debt, she doesn’t have credit, and she is bipolar — stable, but still bipolar). Nevertheless, she treats me so well and sees me in a way no one else ever has, so I normally overlook those things. On the other hand, she is a success story and is always looking for ways to grow.
I think we are compatible, and my family likes her a lot. It’s just that I don’t exactly know what I should do. Please help.