My bf (21M) and I (22F) have been together for 2 years.
We’re not very active sexually, and I think over time that’s affected my confidence more than I realized.
Yesterday he randomly mentioned wanting to bleach/whiten “down there” because he thinks it looks too dark. He was talking about himself, not me, but it immediately made me insecure because I already secretly feel insecure about my own pigmentation there too.
I asked him if that meant he also disliked mine, and he said no, that he was only talking about himself and not me at all.
Still, I couldn’t stop feeling embarrassed afterward. I know darker pigmentation there is completely normal, but hearing someone talk negatively about a feature you also have can really get into your head.
I’m trying to figure out how to stop internalizing comments like this and feel more confident in my body instead of spiraling over it. Has anyone else dealt with this kind of insecurity in a relationship?