I’ve been seeing this girl for about a month and a half. Things have been going great. I’ve been putting in a lot of effort to make her feel seen, doing thoughtful dates (she's contributed too) and we had a really consistent, fun banter going.
Earlier this month, she tragically lost her father. I’ve tried to be as supportive as possible; I even made a self-care hamper and cooked a meal for her to take some pressure off. She’s told me she really appreciated me being there and frankly noone ever though of doing smth like that for her before.
However, since the funeral last Monday, the vibe has shifted. She’s become a bit more standoffish and the consistent banter has slowed down. My anxiety kicked in and I accidentally pushed a bit too hard for a date this coming week (not my finest moment I admit), but I quickly course-corrected and sent a message saying "no stress, take the time you need, let me know when you have a free window. She hearted that message, which I took as a good sign.
I really like this girl and I want to date her properly & long term but I’m struggling with the silence. I'm uncomfortable being out of the loop. My instinct is to keep reaching out to maintain the spark, but I’m being told I need to lower the volume and give her room to breathe.
My questions for you all:
- How do I balance being supportive without being suffocating when we aren't officially together yet?
- If I go quiet for a few days to give her space, am I risking the connection fizzling out?
TL;DR: Seeing a girl for 6 weeks, she lost her dad recently. I’ve been supportive but I’m struggling with the reduced engagement. Need advice on how to give space without losing the connection.