My bf (26M) and I (23F) have different viewpoints on how much to consider our partners in decision making- need some perspective on this.
My bf (26M) essentially told me that he will be honest when it comes to telling me things he will do (i.e travel abroad with a good female friend and they have to sleep in the same bed together one night due to booking issues, which he's done twice in the past while we were together). However, he is not asking for "permission" for these things and he would expect me to trust him as he will be doing that regardless. I (23F) explained to him that though I trust him and would expect him to trust me as well, I would naturally still consider and ask whether he is comfortable or not in these situations, and I would not have issues with tweaking things that wouldn't hurt any of the other parties but especially make him more comfortable (i.e setting up bed on the floor if needed for one night). This idea seems to be a bit foreign to him, and I told him that he expects the best of both worlds (living like he's single without needing to think of what his partner would be feeling when making decisions, but then being able to have the benefits of having a partner when he's around me). This is different from me being worried about "cheating" per se, as I'm not at the moment, but I am worried about his judgement and consideration of me. What do you think?
tl;dr- partner feels like he can do what feels right to him just based on mutual trust alone without having to consider whether it upsets me.