u/Flat-Beginning-8032

I love my husband we are newly married this year. He is very religious and so am I but he has some rules that I know a lot of girls would have problems with, but I try to comply but it makes me wonder if me doubting his rules is the problem, or the rule is valid.

So I moved to his city an hour away from mine I’m a lawyer but currently not working, applying to jobs though which is totally fine with my husband. I wear hijab abaya don’t post pics of me etc all that my husband pushed me to be more modest (which I like about him he made me open my eyes to the logic of our deen & modesty)

Anyway he established that no stepping out of the house for any reason. If I want to go anywhere, I have to wait for him to come back from work. Like this morning at 9 am I saw bakery that’s six minute walk away from our place and he’s at work I asked if I can go he said no. Library, coffee shops groceries not allowed etc.,

His reasoning is he doesn’t want me wandering about well he is not there, guys will approach me & it will also be fitnah for me too being in a new city he doesn’t wanna put me in a position where I’m tempted & end of the day Islamically can’t go out without mehram

He’s the best husband ever so I have been very compliant I don’t argue I know his intentions aren’t wrong, so every day while he’s at work, I just stay at home waiting for him to come back.

Is this normal rules ? Does it get more lenient more years of marriage go by?

Marriage and finding the right partner is such a struggle. I have been there because i had everything going for me in the education, deen, finances, family and looks department , but it took me over two years of searching to finally find someone (and I was on the apps for a few years too ). The engagement period was really rough so many different point of views, disagreements and wedding planning. I was going to give up on us every few months… but Alhamdullilah Now that I’m finally married Alhamdulillah we’re a young couple I am so happy I truly love my husband he’s the best.

Ask me anything!

I’m 26F my husband is 28M he’s very big… I waited till marriage he’s been with like 20+ girls and hes been non virgin for a decade. We went on our honeymoon for a month which is when I tried sex for the first time anyway it took us about 5 sessions to finally get it all in because the first few times It was so so much pain after every session of trying and bleeded immensely for days.

Anyway finally we got it in but it’s more discomfort and no pleasure. It’s like it’s hitting my bladder and even now at the entrance when he first puts it in it hurts. We use lube and forplay. I’ve never put anything inside all my life. I do syntribate though (rubbing thighs to clit).

Anyway, we had about 7 times I do dread sex every time and breathe in and count the seconds till it’s over… how long will this go on for … the problem is I feel no pleasure when it goes in only discomfort