u/Flimsy_Fairy

So Me \[ 20F\] and this guy \[21M\] I’ve been friends with this guy for the past six months now and there’s always been an unspoken truth between us our feelings . long story short he hasn’t been in a relationship in a while and he doesn’t open his heart up to a lot of people. He’s quite avoidant but he’s opened up to me more recently we’ve known each other for six months now and a few weeks ago we were talking the term dating come up a lot he kept talking about it “if we were dating“ so I thought to myself he must be thinking about it. I was trapped in my own mental prison. I needed to set myself free so we were having a conversation and long story short I told him my feelings he thought that I saw him as a brother or something so when I told him he panicked . physically left the room he come back 10 minutes later and acted as if nothing happened that was a few weeks ago now and I asked him on text. Do you like me more than a friend and he said this part originally “I like you as a friend“ then he added“because that’s all we have been. I’ve already told you this?” It felt like complete friend zone.

I don’t know about you, but it sounds like a role more like talking in past tense so anyways it hurt that he told me that but I also believe that people who are especially scared of rejection or vulnerability show their feelings in different ways so it’s like his actions don’t match his words he says he only sees me as a friend, but he admitted things which definitely aren’t platonic. He also admitted on the last phone call we had we FaceTime and he looked in the camera when he said this but he said how I can tell you everything in something and I think we both know what it is but only you know the answer I got scared so I didn’t say anything

And I’m just so stuck. I don’t know what to do if I just let it panel out I suppose. He said from the start that he wasn’t in any rush for a relationship and he likes to take things slow, but honestly, I don’t know what I want from this anymore.

Did anyone else have any other experiences like this? I really want to manifest that we would be in a relationship because I think we could be good for each other but I just want to know if anyone has had any success or what to do in this situation ?

So Me [ 20F] and this guy [21M] I’ve been friends with this guy for the past six months now and there’s always been an unspoken truth between us our feelings . long story short he hasn’t been in a relationship in a while and he doesn’t open his heart up to a lot of people. He’s quite avoidant but he’s opened up to me more recently we’ve known each other for six months now and a few weeks ago we were talking the term dating come up a lot he kept talking about it “if we were dating“ so I thought to myself he must be thinking about it. I was trapped in my own mental prison. I needed to set myself free so we were having a conversation and long story short I told him my feelings he thought that I saw him as a brother or something so when I told him he panicked . physically left the room he come back 10 minutes later and acted as if nothing happened that was a few weeks ago now and I asked him on text. Do you like me more than a friend and he said this part originally “I like you as a friend“ then he added“because that’s all we have been. I’ve already told you this?” It felt like complete friend zone.

I don’t know about you, but it sounds like a role more like talking in past tense so anyways it hurt that he told me that but I also believe that people who are especially scared of rejection or vulnerability show their feelings in different ways so it’s like his actions don’t match his words he says he only sees me as a friend, but he admitted things which definitely aren’t platonic. He also admitted on the last phone call we had we FaceTime and he looked in the camera when he said this but he said how I can tell you everything in something and I think we both know what it is but only you know the answer I got scared so I didn’t say anything

And I’m just so stuck. I don’t know what to do if I just let it panel out I suppose. He said from the start that he wasn’t in any rush for a relationship and he likes to take things slow, but honestly, I don’t know what I want from this anymore.

Did anyone else have any other experiences like this? I really want to manifest that we would be in a relationship because I think we could be good for each other but I just want to know if anyone has had any success or what to do in this situation ?