u/FluffyMinks

I’ve always found it funny and sweet that kids, animals and old people seem to be drawn to me. Animals just come to me, had them jump into my car.. random little kids I don’t know just bring me things or start talking to me, old people will abscond me randomly out in public. It’s always fascinated me but when my daughter’s friends told me that there’s just something about being around me that makes them feel like they can be who they are, they feel comfortable and safe.. it hit me pretty deep. People really do pick up on the unspoken, a persons vibe/aura.. whatever you want to call it, without even realizing it. It’s probably the best compliment I’ve ever gotten honestly. Being a safe, comforting, kind person. What a beautiful gift.

For reference.. I have POTS and supposedly fibromyalgia.

My boyfriend & I were having a “moment” and I had the most intense orgasm I have ever experienced and as I’m laying there waiting for the blood to get back to my head.. my face, lips, hands, legs & whole female area started tingling. It’s never happened to me before.

For anyone who has ever taken Lyrica and had the tingly side effect.. that’s exactly what it felt like.

A letter for myself, and to anyone else who has experienced themselves questioning “why me?” and struggled to understand a painful experience. 💙

“Every person who enters our lives serves a purpose in our journey. Some arrive to teach us, reveal things about ourselves, and help us grow through experiences that are positive and uplifting. Others come to teach us those same lessons, but through pain, heartbreak, and adversity.

One of the most important things I’ve learned is that there is still beauty and meaning, even in our darkest moments. Difficult experiences do not happen because we are undeserving of good things. Sometimes they happen because certain lessons cannot be learned any other way. Sometimes we continue repeating the same patterns until life forces us to pay attention.

A wise man once said, “You don’t change until the pain of remaining the same is greater than the pain it takes to change.” Sometimes we find comfort in familiarity, even when what is familiar is unhealthy. We cling to what we know because it feels safe, despite the damage it causes. Eventually, though, we become so uncomfortable, so restless, and so exhausted by our circumstances that we are propelled beyond the boundaries of our comfort zone.

It has taken me a long time to understand and accept that our greatest growth often emerges from our greatest storms. The trauma we once believed we would never overcome can eventually become the rainbow that appears when the skies begin to clear. But we can only see that rainbow when we stop clinging to the frustration of the storm itself.

A little over two years ago, I experienced the most devastating heartbreak of my life. I fell in love with a man who was not good for me—a man who could not love me the way I deserved to be loved, yet wanted everything I had to give. He loved how I made him feel without offering the same effort, care, or commitment in return. What he did was selfish, and it was cruel. He knew he could not give me what I needed. Yet he was unwilling to be honest, and unwilling to let me go.

He took several years of my life through deception, followed by another year consumed by grief.

But the year that followed those, became a year of rebuilding.

I chose myself. I chose healing. I chose growth.

Piece by piece, I rebuilt my life into something stronger and more beautiful than it had been before. Today, I am more certain of who I am than I have ever been. I know what I want. I know what I deserve. I know what healthy love, respect, and reciprocity look like.

Most importantly, I found peace.

Everything I once believed I needed from someone else, I learned to cultivate within myself. And then, when I least expected it, life introduced me to something even more extraordinary: authentic connection. The kind of connection that exists in complete harmony with who I am and how I choose to live my life. A connection where I am not only seen and heard, but understood on a level I didn’t know was possible.

Looking back now, I can see that every experience—both beautiful and painful—was guiding me here.

Everything I have been through has shaped me into the person I am today and led me to this moment. There is growth in every experience and beauty in every season of life if we are willing to embrace it. Even the moments that break us can eventually become the moments that transform us.

I am profoundly grateful for the unexpected encounters that change the course of our lives. I am grateful for every lesson, every storm, and every blessing that followed. And I am especially grateful for the gift of writing, which has helped me make sense of it all.

Sometimes the way life unfolds feels too extraordinary to be mere coincidence. Call it fate, destiny, God, the universe, or something else entirely—but I can’t help believing that there is a greater force at work, quietly guiding us exactly where we are meant to be.”