u/Foolhardyrunner

I am an aromantic guy I have told my Mom for years that I am aromantic and don't want to date and have no intention of dating. The responses I get are just baffling to me.

My Mom and other people say things like, "You'll meet a woman who will sweep you off your feet." Or some other nonsense variation.

That's not how things work. Even though I have no plans or desire to date I can tell what the setup is like. You have to try to date, you have to ask you need to make plans and follow through etc.

If I am not trying to date, a girlfriend isn't going to fall from the sky and land on me.

People talk like it's inevitable right after telling me about difficulties in a romantic relationship or difficulties finding a good partner. They just told me dating is something they have to work at and then just assume I'll date someone even though I never try to.

The default position is not being married or having a boyfriend/girlfriend the default position is being single.

It's baffling to see someone who had to actively start and then build their own romantic relationship assume it will just happen to me.

It's baffling to me because it seems like for alloromantic people the effort is part of what makes it special to them. They achieved a good romantic relationship and I am happy for them. But why do they just assume I will have one with no desire or effort from me.

Romantic relationships don't just happen. But when people invalidate how I am and what I want out of life they talk like they do.

A non sentient artificial intelligence is a tool. A sentient artificial intelligence is a person or something similar.

We treat tools differently than people.

It's fine to buy a tool or break a tool

It's not fine to buy a person or break a person.

Now, sentient AI doesn't exist, but it is the stated goal of companies developing new AI.

The moral considerations for the ways in which AI companies make money when AI is a tool is different than if AI ever becomes sentient.

It would be wrong for AI companies to sell the use of a sentient AI without compensating the AI since that's slavery. The profit incentive would drive them to keep selling AI use regardless, though.

Problems of capitalism and our broader social system come into play then. Who makes this technology becomes very important.

Personally, I dont trust AI companies to be good parents, and that is what they would be if they made a sentient AI.

The methods of raising an AI are wildly different from raising a child. But the companies would still be making plenty of choices that influence how the AI turns out.