A question for Women seeking Men, does the acknowledgment of a roster or juggling of matches lead to an unmatch?
I had a match that asked 3 questions in 3 days of talking. On day two of talking, I asked about the lack of questioning. I mentioned that people often come online and match with a bunch of people which can make it overwhelming to connect. They didn't respond to the statement and instead asked a question, but I feel like they were pressured to do so. Ultimately, they unmatched when I alluded to the presence of additional matches on both our ends.
Are the haystack method and rostering meant to be secretive?
Would it be weird to match with a person and tell them where they are on the roster?
I have a prompt on my profile about honest and transparent communication, so I am wondering how this conflicts when I match with a person who rosters me.
I don't want to waste anyone's time. I believe in the horizontal distribution of power, but I don't see how rostering respects this if you can't handle being present for every match.