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Any tips on how to quit masturbatin? Its something that I’ve done my whole life, even before I knew what sex was, so it isn’t particularly super sexual to me a lot of the time. (when paired with porn it was though of course)

I have absolutely no desires to watch porn all the time but I still struggle with masturbation, which I think could be me struggling to see how its sinful or how it negatively impacts my life (I’m a girl, so it actually doesn’t negatively effect my health as far as I know)

Can anyone help me understand its sinful nature so that I can quit? I’m scared that I’ll return to porn if I don’t kick it which honestly should be reason enough to help me quit, but again, its not even always sexual for me; its typically just relaxing.

I f19 have struggled with pornography + masturbation for the last 6 years of my life (ages 13-18). I got saved when I was around 15 or 16 and began to recognize pornography as a problem of mine and something that I wanted to be free from. From about 16 on I still struggled with pornography, but as I was now beginning to combat the problem, when I would relapse, the videos that I was watching grew more tame and were not as overtly taboo. (Also note that I struggled with mental health from the ages of 13 to 15; anxiety, depression, disassociation, self harm, suicidal thoughts)

I struggled with it for a long time, but now, as I’m writing this, I’ve been six months free from porn. But recently I’ve been getting flashbacks of this one video in particular that I watched when I was around 15 and I just can’t get over the shame I feel about having watched it. The images of this video flash through my mind and my heart starts racing, the back of my neck gets hot, and I get shaky as if I’m about to have a panic attack. I’m so anxious because I’m so disgusted by this video, but I’m the most disgusted at the fact that I intentionally sought out this video and got off to it. I just hate the fact that I subjected myself to these images and I’m concerned that I wasn’t as repulsed by them in the past as I am now.

I haven’t told anyone about my struggles with porn as I’ve only recently overcome it. I want to tell my parents about it or talk to a therapist, but I’m just too ashamed, especially considering the fact I need most to talk about this one video in particular because there’s no way I could talk about my problem without bringing it up because I just feel the most shame about it.

It’s also harder to talk about porn when you’re a woman because that’s something that people for some reason to assume women don’t struggle with. The video was an incest video. Not your basic “step-bro” type stuff, but parents and their kids. I know it’s fake, I know it’s fabricated, I know it definitely didn’t reflect any of my own personal desires, I liked the taboo of it, but I don’t understand how I could so easily overlook the theme of this video for the pleasure of the taboo. The video started at a family dinner table which is just so sick and revolting to me, and the actors playing the teen children really really looked the part, and it actually makes me feel sick to my stomach.

I try to cut myself some slack considering that I was only 15, deep into this struggle, and not mentally stable, but I can’t for some reason and it’s hard when I’m the only one reassuring myself. I just feel like a horrible person and I feel like I could never tell my parents. It’s even affecting my own desire to have children in the future as I feel like I would be an unfit mother or something with this disgusting secret. How can I move on from the shame that I feel? It’s beginning to interrupt my day-to-day life. And I don’t know why it’s only hitting me now, 4 to 5 years after I watched these types of videos.

I f19 have struggled with pornography + masturbation for the last 6 years of my life (ages 13-18). I got saved when I was around 15 or 16 and began to recognize pornography as a problem of mine and something that I wanted to be free from. From about 16 on I still struggled with pornography, but as I was now beginning to combat the problem, when I would relapse, the videos that I was watching grew more tame and were not as overtly taboo. (Also note that I struggled with mental health from the ages of 13 to 15; anxiety, depression, disassociation, self harm suicidal thoughts)

I struggled with it for a long time, but now, as I’m writing this, I’ve been six months free from porn. But recently I’ve been getting flashbacks of this one video in particular that I watched when I was around 15 and I just can’t get over the shame I feel about having watched it. The images of this video flash through my mind and my heart starts racing, the back of my neck gets hot, and I get shaky as if I’m about to have a panic attack. I’m so anxious because I’m so disgusted by this video, but I’m the most disgusted at the fact that I intentionally sought out this video and got off to it. I just hate the fact that I subjected myself to these images and I’m concerned that I wasn’t as repulsed by them in the past as I am now.

I haven’t told anyone about my struggles with porn as I’ve only recently overcome it. I want to tell my parents about it or talk to a therapist, but I’m just too ashamed, especially considering the fact I need most to talk about this one video in particular because there’s no way I could talk about my problem without bringing it up because I just feel the most shame about it.

It’s also harder to talk about porn when you’re a woman because that’s something that people for some reason to assume women don’t struggle with. The video was an incest video. Not your basic “step-bro” type stuff, but parents and their kids. I know it’s fake, I know it’s fabricated, I know it definitely didn’t reflect any of my own personal desires, I liked the taboo of it, but I don’t understand how I could so easily overlook the theme of this video for the pleasure of the taboo. The video started at a family dinner table which is just so sick and revolting to me, and the actors playing the teen children really really looked the part, and it actually makes me feel sick to my stomach.

I try to cut myself some slack considering that I was only 15, deep into this struggle, and not mentally stable, but I can’t for some reason and it’s hard when I’m the only one reassuring myself. I just feel like a horrible person and I feel like I could never tell my parents. It’s even affecting my own desire to have children in the future as I feel like I would be an unfit mother or something with this disgusting secret. How can I move on from the shame that I feel? It’s beginning to interrupt my day-to-day life. And I don’t know why it’s only hitting me now, 4 to 5 years after I watched these types of videos. It’s hard for me to accept God’s forgiveness when I’m struggling so much to forgive myself.