u/Formal-Helicopter163

I’m certain I trauma bonded with an online friend who knows everything about my past and where I live. He’s made threats to “make sure everyone knows” about who I am because I refuse to conform to his political and ideological thinking. We’ve argued for months over differences in frameworks.

It wasn’t all bad, I genuinely fell in love with him because for the first time, I felt truly seen by a man. He “saved” me from an emotionally abusive situationship of 5 years. And made me feel like I had the chance to start over and find myself again, explore him again mutually. I felt grounded by his morals, his intellect, his humor, and guidance. But very slowly, every little thing was examined and criticized. And apparently, he had been told information about me from that emotionally abusive situationship so.. I found out he had only been tolerating me. For the longest time, I felt like I was kept at “arms length”.

I was crushed and feared being apart of another friendship that didn’t have defined boundaries or a label as to “what we were.” So I tried to set a boundary, stating I was going to search for someone who would naturally choose me. That’s when it all blew up between him and I, it’s like I crushed his heart. Well he’s called me all kinds of harmful names like scum, a f*cker, a b*tch, American rot, a communist, criticizing my intelligence, calling me a manipulator, a liar, fake, telling me I’ve deserved every bit of harm that’s ever happened to me, and he’s wished for all left and right wing scum to die.

So far, it’s been almost 5 days of no contact but I still have him added as friend on my social. I haven’t reached out at all and neither has he. But I fear to fully block him because he has threatened more than once to make me feel the consequences and keep me from “moving on to some other moron”.

I don’t know what to do.

I’m certain I trauma bonded with an online friend who knows everything about my past and where I live. He’s made threats to “make sure everyone knows” about who I am because I refuse to conform to his political and ideological thinking. We’ve argued for months over differences in frameworks.

It wasn’t all bad, I genuinely fell in love with him because for the first time, I felt truly seen by a man. He “saved” me from an emotionally abusive situationship of 5 years. And made me feel like I had the chance to start over and find myself again, explore him again mutually. I felt grounded by his morals, his intellect, his humor, and guidance. But very slowly, every little thing was examined and criticized. And apparently, he had been told information about me from that emotionally abusive situationship so.. I found out he had only been tolerating me. For the longest time, I felt like I was kept at “arms length”.

I was crushed and feared being apart of another friendship that didn’t have defined boundaries or a label as to “what we were.” So I tried to set a boundary, stating I was going to search for someone who would naturally choose me. That’s when it all blew up between him and I, it’s like I crushed his heart. Well he’s called me all kinds of harmful names like scum, a f*cker, a b*tch, American rot, a communist, criticizing my intelligence, calling me a manipulator, a liar, fake, telling me I’ve deserved every bit of harm that’s ever happened to me, and he’s wished for all left and right wing scum to d*e.

So far, it’s been almost 5 days of no contact but I still have him added as friend on my social. I haven’t reached out at all and neither has he. But I fear to fully block him because he has threatened more than once to make me feel the consequences and keep me from “moving on to some other moron”.

I don’t know what to do.