I’ve been on a friendship hiatus for almost 2 months, and only reconnected last Mother’s Day just to respond to greetings and be polite. Conversations have mostly been small talk and honestly don’t feel sustainable.

I’ve been thinking about reaching out again, but I don’t want the other person to think everything is back to normal. I already know things won’t really be the same anymore.

I’ve chosen not to fully cut things off since our families are still connected, but I do want to keep it low-contact. What's the best approach to this?

I see who you are now. And I understand that so much of it was just an act, an illusion, a lie. The most painful part is not that the love ended — the most painful part is that I believed in someone who hurt me so deeply.

You once told me that I was the first person who ever did such wonderful things for you, the first person who truly cared about you the way I did. I gave you my love, my loyalty, my heart, and parts of myself that I never gave to anyone else. Yet you treated me like I was nothing. Like I had no value to you at all.

Instead of appreciating the love I gave you, you blamed me for everything and hid behind excuses that could never justify the pain you caused. You made me feel like I was the problem, while all I ever tried to do was love you genuinely and stand by your side.

You made me walk away with your silence, your abuse, your disrespect, and your complete lack of accountability. I stayed longer than I should have because I believed in you, in us, and in the person you made me think you were. But in the end, I realized I could not keep destroying myself trying to save someone who kept hurting me and refusing to take responsibility for it.

Still, from the bottom of my heart, I hope that one day you learn how to truly love. That you will be able to love someone not only with words, but with actions. That you will understand how a husband should respect his wife, protect her, be vulnerable, humble, willing to compromise, and make a woman feel safe beside him.

I hope that you will never have to experience the kind of pain I experienced because of you. I hope you never wake up wondering whether you are living in a nightmare, whether life is testing you, or whether you let a demon into your life. You hurt me to the deepest core of my soul, and even now it is difficult to explain the pain I felt.

But even after everything, I do not wish that pain on you. I would not wish it on anyone — not even the person who shattered me into a thousand pieces.

I hope that one day you truly understand what you did. And I hope that by then, you become someone who will never hurt another person that way again.

Why does he hate me so much.

I feel like I tried to love him regardless of what he is, in his best state and in his worst state, I still considered him. I tried to understand him. All cause I chose act of love.

but I feel for every act of love, even when it's ugly or hard, the more he hates me. The more he despises me.

and then I was discarded like I was nothing cause he couldn't take accountability and blame it all on me, hatefully.

I have dysfunctional family. Narc father, avoidant mother. 2 sisters. One avoidant lost child and the other narc golden child who also is on Lithium.

I had my awakening about 1 year back. Since then I am low contact with the family. Still with them but on a different floor.

Golden child tells everything I talk about to narc father.

Today GC posted on family whatsapp group a very desperate message talking about suicide if not helped with. She wants to freeze her eggs and has turned 40. She needs money to do this. (She has never worked in her life and is paid by father for everything)

I usually have stopped helping or advising her. But the suicide threat (even though I know its false, she cares for herself too much) made me melt and I reached out to her in person. I told her I can help her out with the money and to go ahead. I was a little worried about her mood swings and lithium levels but I know she will dismiss me after she gets the money.

I don't want anything back and there is nothing in it for me except being human. Do you think I made a mistake ?

If yes, how should I damage control ?

Disclaimer: i was venting to chatgpt and i asked him to clean my post a bit since theres too much info and english is not my first language so the text is AI generated but the story is 100% true

Met this girl 7 months ago and instantly clicked. She told me herself she was a narcissist but I ignored it because she treated me better than any girl ever has. We were together every day, sleeping on calls, acting like a married couple, fucking, kissing, going everywhere together. She spent a stupid amount of money on me too, buying me food almost every day, gifts, posting me everywhere, introducing me to her parents. I genuinely thought God finally sent me the right girl after years of getting hurt.

From the very beginning I told her my 2 biggest dealbreakers were sluts and drug users. I said many times I could never be with someone like that and she promised she wasn’t like that anymore and that she’d never lie to me.

Turns out while we were already acting like a couple she was still fucking another guy in her college dorm while I was asleep on call or busy. At first she lied and said she stopped before me, then mixed up her lies later and exposed herself. Apparently the guy left her because he found out she was talking to me too.

Then people started telling me rumors that she got ran through in her town, fucked dudes in abandoned buildings, had a huge body count, etc. I defended her because I thought people were just mad she rejected them since a lot of guys want her only for her body.

Later we officially dated and I started finding actual evidence. Photos, screenshots, old messages, hidden accounts. She denied EVERYTHING until I was about to leave. She gave me her Snapchat and Instagram logins to “prove” she was loyal but most chats were already deleted. Then I found other passwords and found out she had an OnlyFans at 18 too and most rumors were actually true.

She still had dudes she fucked added everywhere while dating me and talked to them casually in front of me while we were together. Whenever I confronted her she’d either deny it, cry, say I’m attacking her, or switch to “okay I did it so what it’s the past.” Even though some stuff happened while we were already basically together.

She keeps saying I’m the only guy who treated her like a person and not just a body, says she loves me more than anyone, says she changed for me, cries when I try to leave, threatens suicide, begs me not to give up, etc. But then I keep discovering more lies.

Recently I found out she also lied about drugs after promising me she’d never lie again. Turns out in October (a month before we met) she was sniffing cocaine at a party and bragging about it to her friend. I don’t know if she did it later too because at this point I don’t even know what’s true anymore.

What fucks with my head is she genuinely acts loving sometimes. She spends money on me, posts me everywhere, wants to be around me 24/7, talks about a future together. But at the same time she lies nonstop, hides shit, deletes things, changes passwords, manipulates situations, and I honestly don’t even know what’s real anymore.

I seriously thought I was gonna marry this girl.

TLDR: Girl acted like a sweet innocent loyal girl with a rough past, promised she quit drugs years ago and wasn’t a hoe. Later found out she lied about almost everything, was fucking another guy behind my back, hid a huge past, lied about drugs, manipulates me, and every time I forgive her I discover more shit.

The question is what to do? How do i trust her? How do most of these people actually act? What are the chances she will go back to that life again? Is it even worth it? She keeps crying that she changed for me and looks up to me and she loves me and that the relationship will work but is this just manipulation or the truth?

*avoided humiliation rituals at a family dinner and prevented ncousin from asserting control and superiority over me!

I've had a long road with various narcs and psychopaths violating my boundaries. Finally at age 40, I was just at a family dinner and I avoided about 6 humiliation rituals by not taking part in the routine they were wrapped into or checking people as they approached me with, 'Wait five minutes please, hold that thought, and I will get back to you at the end, is that okay?'

Or, 'Can we not talk about this right now since other people are not really onto this subject, we can talk about it later privately.'

And the best, 'Ncousin, if you show my embarassing photo to everyone on your phone, there will be a slashed tire on your car - not from me, but from your neighbors, and on your Tesla it is - think about it - a $1,000!'

Ironically, my ncousin loves this, finds this approach to him interesting and is saying how he had a great time, misses me and wants to be friends even more.

I replied, 'Nice try, Diddler! My friendship is a quid pro quo service! You would need to cook sweet potato fries and chicken wings for me if you want me to continue.'

I’m at a point in life where I value peace, consistency, honesty, growth, emotional maturity, and real effort more than anything. ❤️

I’m rebuilding my life step by step and I’m proud of that. I’m not looking for someone to rescue me, control me, or play games with me. I want something genuine that grows naturally — a connection where both people are building, healing, communicating, and moving forward together.

I like real conversations, loyalty, affection, quality time, laughing together, gaming sometimes, and building a safe peaceful life with someone who actually means what they say.

I’m not interested in confusion, mixed signals, constant chaos, manipulation, or emotionally unavailable people anymore.

If you’re consistent, emotionally mature, goal-oriented, kind, and actually want something meaningful long term… feel free to message me. 🌱✨

For the sake of privacy. My gender and the subject in question shall not be disclosed. Person is a coworker. I messed up. I told them about a fallout i had with a close friend that broke me and how im done with friends in general so what does that person do. Try to be my friend of course. It was flattering at first until that person started glazing me for the most absurd reasons.

I gave that person a shot and introduced a show i watched. Person said they will watch it but guess what. They didn and lied about it. Every question i asked they flunked. Hard. I called them out on the lie and they went victim mode saying that they are dumb and for me to forgive them. I pulled the plug on em and tell em to stop talking about it.

Next few days person sends me a bunch of texts asking more about my interests and if i would do such and such if they did something. Every text was ghosted by me. Person tried to micromanage my work despite having no authorisation to do so. Tried to pit me againist another worker using their age and disablities to guilt trip me into doing them favors.

Insulted my bad mother tongue despite being a different race that happens to speak the language decently in a passive aggressive manner. And the most recent breaking point was physically pushing me preventing me from walking away from a conversation which is actually an interogation about my character accusing me of being rude to another coworker, a conversation they wasn a part of. I know my reality. It wasn their place to know i have no obligation to explain myself. I chuckled. Told them to calm down and tried to walk off leading to the push. In prev convo they tried to use my history with my prev friend to give them a chance.

I sounded off to HR who adviced me to draft a boundary msg to set the record straight. Person was in panik mode saying they will stop. And what do they do next. Track my sick days, ask me if im friends with this person or that person. Inviting me to eat with them in a hotel of all places. I could go on and on but thats about it for now

Has anyone else experienced this?

I know logically and intellectually that my ex partner with BPD / NPD traits is not good for me.

However, I get trapped emotionally quite often. Thinking "Maybe I am the problem" or "I should have tried harder to fight for my family". We share a child together so not being able to seem them daily has also be very difficult for me (50/50 custody).

The event that triggered me recently is that she told me she's dating again. I have not dated at all, and don't have a desire to. For more context, we were married / together for 21 years.

We've been divorced 13 months, but she has been dating this person for 8-9 months. When I found that out... I was quite upset. Feeling like I wasn't good enough, etc. And it can spiral down so much that I get to feeling really down about myself.

She did a lot of very hurtful things during the divorce, and co-parenting with her is very challenging as it seems that she is living in a completely different reality.

If you've experienced feelings like these when your ex starts dating again, how do you handle them?

I have made a list of all the terrible things she's said and done over the years, and I review that from time to time to remind me that she's not good for me. But, I'm hurting now that she's dating again.

Thank you in advance, this forum has been helpful as a lurker.

My whole life foxes have been my favorite animal, I have a ton of fox mugs and other decorative items with foxes, clothes with foxes on them and a beanie that looks like a fox, like it was my “spirit animal” in a way, ig what I’m saying is that it meant a lot to me.

My exes infidelity accomplice (the person my ex cheated on me with) also felt an extreme kinship with foxes, her pfp is a fox, my ex called her “foxxy” as a pet name, and would fantasize as them being a fox and wolf(that’s my exes animal) running around a field when they were feeling down, they didn’t think of me being their fox, it was her.

Before this I bought gifts for my ex they were the wolf and I was the fox, those were the animals that represented us in my gifts, because it was both our favorite animals, but now it all feels tainted, not only did I get replaced in my relationship, but I got replaced as the fox in their life, it’s like an extra harsh blow because of the comparison that could be made, like she’s just the better fox, she was better than me in so many ways, including being the better fox to their wolf

I know this sounds silly, but it just feels like not only did she ruin my relationship but she’s tainted a part of my personality as well, something that used to mean so much to me now just makes me recoil and feel disgust to think about, looking back on what used to me “us” now just looks like “them and her” instead, I don’t think I’ll ever look at my favorite animal the same again

Ok so lets start from the beginning,
when i met him he was very lovey dovey in the first year like u can say we were like best friends,

then a year and half passed by and i got to know that for that whole year he was in contact with his “ex” and she used to send him nudes and stuff and he once met him to while being in a relationship with me(i found out after a year)

and when he met his ex she gave him a bj apparently bcoz “i wasnt sexually opened up with him or anything” and i couldnt satisfy him( he was 17), then , i forgave him but i still remember how my hands were shivering that time when i got to know abt this
, also , after that idk wht chnged but he started abusing even more when i wouldn’t agree with his thoughts and wouldn’t do what he says,
he made me delete all my socials like insta snap and all, but he could use it, and in that, in that 2nd year i got so fed up i broke up with him, in hope that he would be back and chnge, not treat me like shit,
he came back, again very lovey dovey, we were intimate too, but then again cheated, he called that particular ex and asked for sex that pls pls lets do it, gross yes,

then manipulated me into thinking that he didnt do anything like that, he also made an snapchat acc, added some random foreign girls and sent his dicc pics to them,added unadded random girls , and everything then in the 4th year i broke up with him,

and also like he said some inhumane stuff like i hope ur mom dad die , i hope ur husband cheats on u, u deserved to be cheated on, u r a wh@re and all, after that i broke up we went no contact for about a year,
then he came back again saying he has changed, and wad very lovey dovey, but still abuse was there some signs of involvement of girls was there, and along with this he would always care abt his feelings more, like he wont care abt hurting me if he is sad or angry or hurt, he bought me flowers but i told him that i dont want them i want respect and loyalty then i want flowers, he said yes but his actions said sm else, then this month, everything was so so messed up,
he said things like i didnt abuse u much , and like he made me feel guilty for expressing my feelings or being vulnerable, i was sick of all this, and on top of that, just after breakup he started adding random girls on instagram who dont even follow him back which he had done 100 of times while being in a relationship and knew would hurt me,

and just on the night of breakup he said that if u had a bf before me or had male frnds i won’t have dated you or been serious with u, bcoz thats my boundary, and i was like? He said i dont want to be cheated on , i said what abt me? That day was the day i left him forever with no hopes of him changing,

Like but now i wonder was all that 6 years a lie? He never loved me? If he did how cheat? And if he didnt what abt those moments and those gestures of love?

Edit:my stomach pains with his msg or when i get hurt with somthing that is connected to him particularly, before meeting him too i have that, earlier i had inner shivers now i have this(i never had these things for anyone or from anyone in my entire life)

Ok so lets start from the beginning,
when i met him he was very lovey dovey in the first year like u can say we were like best friends,

then a year and half passed by and i got to know that for that whole year he was in contact with his “ex” and she used to send him nudes and stuff and he once met him to while being in a relationship with me(i found out after a year)

and when he met his ex she gave him a bj apparently bcoz “i wasnt sexually opened up with him or anything” and i couldnt satisfy him( he was 17), then , i forgave him but i still remember how my hands were shivering that time when i got to know abt this
, also , after that idk wht chnged but he started abusing even more when i wouldn’t agree with his thoughts and wouldn’t do what he says,
he made me delete all my socials like insta snap and all, but he could use it, and in that, in that 2nd year i got so fed up i broke up with him, in hope that he would be back and chnge, not treat me like shit,
he came back, again very lovey dovey, we were intimate too, but then again cheated, he called that particular ex and asked for sex that pls pls lets do it, gross yes,

then manipulated me into thinking that he didnt do anything like that, he also made an snapchat acc, added some random foreign girls and sent his dicc pics to them,added unadded random girls , and everything then in the 4th year i broke up with him,

and also like he said some inhumane stuff like i hope ur mom dad die , i hope ur husband cheats on u, u deserved to be cheated on, u r a wh@re and all, after that i broke up we went no contact for about a year,
then he came back again saying he has changed, and wad very lovey dovey, but still abuse was there some signs of involvement of girls was there, and along with this he would always care abt his feelings more, like he wont care abt hurting me if he is sad or angry or hurt, he bought me flowers but i told him that i dont want them i want respect and loyalty then i want flowers, he said yes but his actions said sm else, then this month, everything was so so messed up,
he said things like i didnt abuse u much , and like he made me feel guilty for expressing my feelings or being vulnerable, i was sick of all this, and on top of that, just after breakup he started adding random girls on instagram who dont even follow him back which he had done 100 of times while being in a relationship and knew would hurt me,

and just on the night of breakup he said that if u had a bf before me or had male frnds i won’t have dated you or been serious with u, bcoz thats my boundary, and i was like? He said i dont want to be cheated on , i said what abt me? That day was the day i left him forever with no hopes of him changing,

Like but now i wonder was all that 6 years a lie? He never loved me? If he did how cheat? And if he didnt what abt those moments and those gestures of love?

Also my stomach pains with his msg or when i get hurt with somthing that is connected to him particularly, before meeting him too i have that, earlier i had inner shivers now i have this(i never had these things for anyone or from anyone in my entire life)

I was informed today that I possess god-like powers. Apparently, a single sentence I uttered two years ago is the reason our son’s athletic career is "over."

​The "Crime":

Two years ago, I mentioned that our son should play football, because he loved it. At the time, I didn't care which sport it was, I just wanted him to stay active. My husband agreed. He was the one who argued that football was great for stamina, citing famous professional tennis players who played football alongside tennis to improve their footwork. Our son played football for two years and took a break from tennis.

​The Consequence:

Now, our son has returned to tennis. Because the physical demands are higher now, he unfortunately suffered a shoulder injury.

​The Grandiose Accusation:

My husband looked at me today and said: “Your one sentence was the deciding factor. You said he should play football, and that’s why he has a shoulder injury now. His career is over because of you. Your sentence was fatal!”

​The Reality Check:

It is fascinating how he manages to bypass all logic to make me the villain:

​He is a grown man and a father. If he felt football was a mistake, he could have spoken up then. He didn't.

​He is suggesting that my words, not biology, not the intensity of the training, not the coaching, physically caused a tendon or muscle to tear two years later.

​He is using our son’s genuine injury not as a reason to provide support, but as a prop to crush me with guilt.

​The sheer grandiosity of claiming one sentence from years ago "decided" a child's entire future is a special kind of reach. It’s an attempt to keep me in a defensive crouch, apologizing for the laws of physics and his own lack of agency.

​My Response:

I didn't argue. I didn't try to explain the absurdity of his logic. I just shrugged my shoulders and told him:

​"I don't think that's how it happened."

​I refused to carry the weight of his narrative.

​Has anyone else dealt with this "butterfly effect" style of blame? Where a tiny, shared decision from the past is retroactively turned into a "fatal mistake" that is 100% your fault? How do you maintain your sanity when the accusations become this delusional?🐺

I thought he would never contact but he did last week. Took me a bit with surprise. We got into a verbal spat where I asked why he contacted and he was like I don’t know mind works in mysterious ways. The conversation ended on a point where he asked me what can he do to make up for it. I asked him what can he to which he never replied. After two days and a therapy session , I blocked him. Initially I was okay but now I feel sudden loneliness and sadness. It’s not yearning it’s just I wanna sleep right next to him . And these feelings make me quite uncomfortable cause I do hate him. How do I navigate these emotions and desires ?

I (29F) had been in a relationship with a narcissistic man (28M) for a year, I broke up in Nov 2024. It was like a usual narcissistic relationship where I lost all my confidence, was at a very bad mental state, it was emotionally abusive to the extent that even after understanding the abuse, I took 3 more months to breakup with him. The important part is that whatever I did never reached to him that I love him and that his actions are causing pain. Hence during the last 2 months, there were times when he wasnt responding or saying very bad things to me (like how narcissists behave), I said “If I die maybe he will understand my worth” and I showed him that I am killing myself (although I knew I wont go through with it). I did this 5 times.

Months after breakup, when I analysed my behaviour I felt that was wrong of me to do. I shared this in reddit, and you guys made me see that it was my coping mechanism and I kind of understood it was how I reacted because that was the only way to get him to stop his torture.

Now, from January 2026 I somehow got involved in a situationship with a friend - he is not my type as a partner but we are way too compatible as friends. We started having physical things, I told him that let’s not continue because I will get attached and he has a girlfriend. He had just started a relationship in December 2025 with a girl he never met - the girl was head over heels in love with him but from his side it was more of empathetic love because the girl has no parents and no friends. In February, when I decided to avoid talking to him much (we just hanged out in groups), he didnt like it and he also started doing things which usually you do for someone you like. He said he loves me (something he never said his gf), he spent his gf’s bday with me (they are long distance, as I said they never met in real life), he shared his emotions with me, he used to come to my place if I ignored his calls, cook for me, telling things like i miss you, will take leave for your bday, will write you a song, etc etc. - things which led me to fall for him. He made me believe with his words and actions that I am “more special” than his girlfriend and he also said things that he thought of leaving her and continue with me - he didnt act on this. For him also, apparently all these were new and he didnt know what to do.

By the end of Feb, I knew that relationship wont work with him because I wont be able to trust him with this cheating history. I wanted him to be friends, but I knew I need some time gap where we are in no contact because we both had feelings by that time. But entire March and April, whenever I blocked him and stopped contact, he reached out by coming to my place or through friend’s phone or something or the other. And we used to again go back to the same loop. I couldnt be very strict in the boundaries because -

1. I thought he is trying to be just good friends (which he did try sometimes, but failed because of his soft corner) so may be let’s give him a chance because I am Mother Teresa Lite
2. I had feelings already

Emotionally I was a wreck because he was not choosing me, I felt inferior to the gf because if he is saying that I mean more, he connects more with me and I am seeing that also in his actions where both of us exist and he is more connected to me but then why is he not leaving her. I didnt want him to commit to me, but atleast be loyal, leave her and be single. And we had these conversations multiple times and I cried to him also - but every time he said we wont do again, but never sticked to it. So after 4 months of pain, I saw that my tears are not making him feel bad to the extent that he would actually stop, and he even after cheating is getting so much love from that girl, that I decided to tell the girl. Not with the intent of “winning him” but with the intent of “making him suffer” because I was the only one in the whole equation who was suffering and I didnt deserve it because I tried to stop him every damn time. I told the girl the whole thing, the girl told his parents and now he has deleted me from everywhere and doesnt talk to me anymore.

This is long story short.

Now the help I need from you guys is on this -

1. I feel that a part of me falling for him was because of the breadcrumb love that he gave (loving but not committing) because in narcissistic relationships also the same dynamic happens which makes you addicted to this kind of a behaviour. What is your opinion on this ? And if you agree then how to actually not do this going forward ?

2. The last day when his gf told his parents, he called me saying i ruined his life and he wants to end his life. I went rushing to his place and saw he was sitting with a knife but didnt do anything. After that I wanted to be there so that he doesnt do anything stupid (mother teresa lite), and then I ended up crying again because making him suffer obviously didnt stop my suffering and he was also going from my life. Now here an interesting thing happened - usually he is very caring and loving and he cant see me cry and he even got anxiety attack once just by seeing me cry. But that day since he has pinned the whole thing on me that because of me his image is ruined in front of this parents and his ex gf, when I cried, he didnt even flinch. And it was same like when my ex never cared when I used to cry my eyeballs out. So from somewhere that coping mechanism came back where I sat down with the knife - I knew I wont do anything but I wanted the guy to care. And of course he did care. But here is my second question. I thought it was a coping mechanism for my relationship with my narc ex, why did it come back here also ? And again, how to ensure not to do this in the future ?

3. After 1.2 years of breakup, this whole incident happened. I thought I had healed because I was doing really good in life, but then does this mean I am not healed ?

My boyfriend is great - he is very kind, takes care of me, we are best friends. Have been together for two years.

When we met, we met at a random bar, he was talking to me first, but then my best friend came over and he started talking to her/hitting on her instead. She rejected him, and instead told him that I was actually interested and then he started talking to me and that’s how our relationship formed. When I shared with him that my best friend had told me he was hitting on her, he told me he doesn’t remember that happening and shut down the conversation completely. I know it’s not a big deal, we didn’t know each other at the time, but I was worried about starting a relationship with him due to this and honestly, it made me feel second best. I tried to express this to him, but he tells me he doesn’t remember telling her that, then stone walls me.

I am trying to let it go because I know it’s not a big deal, but he does do other things that make me feel a little bad. We’ve been mid-conversation at grocery stores before and he has completely turned his head to check a girl out - head to toe. I understand people still think others are attractive, but it felt bad because we were mid-conversation. He told me that I was being insecure when I shared that this upset me. I am trying to express my emotions, and he is kind, but the sentiment is that I am being insecure.

Other times, we have been out and he’s stared at women in bathing suits right in front of me, looked down as he’s walking past women in leggings and looked out of the corner of his eye to see their ass, looked in the mirror as a girl is passing to look at her ass, he has smiled at random women in restaurants, looked behind me to look at a woman’s ass. It’s not very discreet. I share with him that this makes me feel bad, but he refuses to talk about it. He will start screaming at me in some cases, refuse to talk to me for hours, or he will threaten our relationship. He says he is not looking at other women and it’s in my head. In some cases, he has screamed at me for bringing it up, then hit objects right next to me or in front of me

I understand people look at other people all of the time. I am not sure where to go next, because I have seen it so many times, I’m not confident it’s “in my head” anymore and I’m not really sure what else it could be nor why he would threaten our relationship if I truly wasn’t seeing what I am seeing. I am also not sure why he would be hitting things right next to me if he was actually doing it.

In other situations, he has screamed at me in front of his friends and at a national park because I brought up something I was annoyed with him about. He says we both should have been exercising more so I could have been dealing with my anxiety and the problem wouldn’t have happened. I feel insulted by this, but am wondering if there is truth to it. He has screamed at me for being upset about not being invited to a wedding (that at the time, we were both under the understanding the bride to be was a friend of his exes.) I had gotten upset with him for things like leaving my friend’s birthday early to be with his friends and he then called me crying, telling me that I was being toxic. Which he now refuses to acknowledge and now says the reason for the problem was on his friend.

The situation has gotten to the point where I feel physically ill. He is otherwise very good to his friends, he is honest in most other situations and seems to have empathy for me in other struggles that I deal with. We do everything together and I just want this to workout but I’m starting to feel crazy

Ok so i was in my first relationship with this one girl who was beautiful and amazing and so innocent and cute and she broke up with me two and a half weeks ago because of my retroactive jealousy.
I will tell you guys the story at first I thought she was innocent and would never hookup with nobody and she told me this as well but then she told me a story about her giving head to some random guy after a party two weeks before we met and when i heard that story i just couldn’t believe she did this and it hunted me so much and gave me anxiety and i fought with her about this for no reason for a couple weeks.
And then I started accepting her and moved on from this story and had peace with it for like a week and when I finally felt peace with it she told me she was going to the same club with her girlfriends and when i heard that that triggered me so much i was anxious af for two days until i talked with her about this and how i feel and this turned into a fight again and she told me that she loves me but can’t stay in this relationship because shes afraid that i will keep having this issue and it wont change and if she stays she would get more hurt in the future so she rather get hurt but not as much right now then if she stays and we will keep fighting about this in the future and then she broke up with me.
Right now we are in No Contact for 17 days and i have so much regret that i kept fighting with her about something she couldn’t manage and was only in my head and i just want her to come back and i miss her so much i just don’t no what to do.
PLEASE HELP

I recently realized that my ex is a narcissist/manipulative person, and I finally decided to leave him for good. I blocked him everywhere and ignored him for about a month. During that time, I honestly wasn’t emotionally attached anymore — I didn’t miss him or hope for reconciliation. I actually felt disgusted by him. I only unblocked him out of curiosity, nothing more.

The moment I unblocked him, he immediately started trying to “hoover” me back in. He blamed me, told me I was acting like a victim, tried to guilt-trip me, and said he missed me. I already knew these tactics, so I responded with the grey rock method because I hoped he would eventually get bored and leave me alone.

Instead, he kept messaging me.

At one point, he begged me to answer because he supposedly had something “very important” to tell me on a voice call. I ignored him for two days. After that, he suddenly sent me a huge paragraph full of insults and emotional abuse.

He called me horrible names like “whore” and “bitch,” accused me of cheating and flirting with men at work, said nobody would ever love me, called me mentally ill and crazy, insulted my past, and basically tried to destroy my self-worth. He even used disgusting emojis while insulting me.

What shocked me the most was realizing that he genuinely had no limit. Before this, he had emotionally abused me before, but I still thought there were lines he wouldn’t cross. Apparently not.

Honestly, the message scared me and shocked me, but I also knew deep down that what he was saying wasn’t true. I tried very hard not to react emotionally because I didn’t want to give him satisfaction or attention.

I basically told him: “So this is the respectful and amazing person you always claimed to be? This behavior just shows your real personality. Your words don’t affect me because I don’t value your opinion anymore.”

After that, I blocked him again. Then he created a new email just to contact me and apologize, saying he loved me and wanted me to unblock him.

My question is: has anyone else experienced this kind of reaction after ignoring or rejecting a narcissist/manipulative ex? Did they suddenly become extremely emotionally abusive when they realized they were losing control over you?i am just scared

Hi. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 8 months and have noticed some traits in him which have recently led me to be worried I may be dealing with super early and subtle marks of narcissistic personality disorder. If anyone can provide some feedback and advice I'd be very grateful.

The main issues are these: He is normally extremely kind, generous, well-loved by everyone around him, he takes care of everyone's needs, acts almost as a sort of manager who will get everyone's tickets to a show, etc, he is extremely family-oriented. But, a few times when I have accidentally said something he felt was insulting in regards to things he's prideful of, like the private school he attended as a kid, he blows up and is very slow to apologize for the blow up. This has happened a few times and it always feels really random. Like, we are having a normal conversation and then I say something he doesn't like and his face 'shuts down', his voice changes and it literally feels like a different person has appeared for a few minutes until I stop talking. I have also noticed I basically wipe-out these moments from my own mind because they are so out of character with his everyday behavior. Next, he seems to present himself to others as extremely accomplished and doing a lot of great things, while I have seen in his day-to-day life he basically does not want to work and expects others to help him, like his parents (to some extent). Yet he talks often about being super busy and having a lot on his shoulders. When I bring up topics like marriage or children, he has blown up at me multiple times because he feels that I am taking away the special-ness of him proposing on his timeline (yes I know we haven't dated long but we are both Catholics and old enough to be having these discussions at this point). Ultimately, I've told him that it feels like my feelings are not taken into consideration and that I always have to bend myself to fit his plans, ideas, and I have to walk on eggshells in order to not get him upset. This is becoming increasingly disturbing to me because I also feel internally that it is very hard to detach from him and I haven't felt this way before in a relationship. I'm so tired of feeling confused and like I am a bad person. It feels like we are glued in some way that I don't understand and yet he cannot give me clarity about what a life together looks like in the future.

Thank you in advance!

How do these narcs get away with it? My friend is still dating this guy who cheated on her from literally the very beginning of their relationship and continued on for 8 months. She was sent solid PROOF from the mistress but yet she remains convinced by him that the other woman is crazy and made it all up. Like how oh how do they get away with these lies?? I gently tried to sway her but she’s drank the kool-aid. Why would she forgive someone like that? It’s hurt our friendship.