Im going through a bad breakup and ive quit social media so i have a lot free time and its hard on me. i used to doomscroll so now i want to break that bad habit and focus on reading and other stuff. i want to get into reading to motivate me and just to improve my mind. Whats the best books to read.

I’m just wondering if I’m the only one who has done this because I honestly don’t hear about it very often due to it taking a lot of self control and self strength and hard acceptence to make this whole decisionn.

After my breakup I completely disappeared fr. I blocked him everywhere, blocked his number, deleted all my social media and cut off every way he could have access to me. We were long distance in diff cities, so Ik this isn’t possible for everyone depending on their situation.

My main reasons were:

• I was constantly stalking his socials, checking his followers and seeing things he told me he never would do, which only hurt me more.

• I didn’t want him having access to me anymore or knowing what I was doing. I also wanted to stop feeding his ego.

• I needed to remove the temptation to check on him and finally accept that the relationship was over.

It’s been three weeks and I’ve never gone this long without him or social media. He was my first love for years, so I still think about the good memories, but the person he became made me realise I had enough he has no respect for me and is trying to break me down and flex his new life after hurting me. His ego is insane... but overall social media has been something ive always wanted to quit its took up most of my life and has ruined my brain.

Honestly, disappearing has helped. My FYP would constantly remind me of him and make me miss him and checking his socials just kept me stuck. I’ve even stopped listening to sad music and that has helped A LOT with ruminating music made me worse in the first part of the breakup itd make me think of the old memories. The breakup still hurts so much, its been 2 months since the actual breakup but the last time we spoke was 3 weeks ago and thats when i had enough of him. It is very lonely and one minute im okay the next im having bad urges, social media is a quick dopamine so thats why its so hard but im starting to learn and find other ways to get healthy dopamine. Tiktok was my main trigger, it was filled with bad content and made me want to text him. He made his accounts public which made my healing worse and thats when i decided this whole decision.

I’m not saying everyone needs to disappear completely but if your able to cut off access and stop checking their socials, I genuinely think it can help you heal or take away some of the pain.

Has anyone else completely disappeared after a breakup? Did it help you move on or is it helping you if you just started and what was your reasons ?

I’m just wondering if I’m the only one who has done this because I honestly don’t hear about it very often.

After my breakup I completely disappeared. I blocked him everywhere, blocked his number, deleted all my social media and cut off every way he could have access to me. We were from different cities so its LDR, i know for others its hard to delete socials and all contact due to co parenting or whatever the situations may be.

My main reasons were:

• I was constantly stalking his socials, checking his followers and looking at what he was doing, even though I knew it would hurt me.

• I kept seeing him do things he told me he never would, and it was making me overthink and hurt myself all over again.

• I didn’t want him to have any access to me anymore. I didn’t want him knowing what I was doing, who I was with or being able to check up on me.

• I needed to completely remove the temptation to check on him and finally accept that the relationship was over for good.

It’s been three weeks and I’ve never gone this long without him or social media. He was my first love for years, so obviously I still think about the good memories and miss who I thought he was. But the person he became was completely different, and I eventually reached a point where I had enough. His ego cost us our rs to end. He said some nasty stuff and has gone back to his old habits and is a huge narcassist and avoidant. I had enough so this is what its resulted to for my own healing and to prove to him that i can live without him. he never takes anything serious.

I just wanted to remove myself completely, stop giving him access to me and stop giving him any more space in my head.

Has anyone else completely disappeared after a breakup? Did it help you move on or is it helping you if you just started and what was your reasons ?

i do reccomend doing this after a toxic breakup just to heal in general and be away from their checking their socials as it brings nothing but pain and it would boost their ego. Its also nice to step away from social media as doom scrolling and the algorthim is so vulnerable and makes you not want to heal. My FYP would make me miss him and make me vulnerable so this has helped a lot on that aspect. Ive also stopped listening to music and sad songs, thats helping A LOT to not ruminate.

If you want to do it with me, comment Day 1 and then whenever you get the urge to check come back to this post and tell us what day your on instead. We can all keep each other accountable and encourage each other when the urge gets bad. I made this bold writing because its the main point of the post, i hope we all healll lets do this!❤️

Does anyone else keep checking their ex’s socials even though you know you’ll feel worse afterwards but now wants to quit and srsly start their healing journey?

I’ve realised I’m genuinely addicted to checking my ex’s socials and I need to put an end to it because it’s hurting me SO SO badly. I can go a week without checking and then the urge gets so bad that I find a way to look, and every single time I regret it. Seeing him posting, flexing and living his new life adding women like nothing happened makes me feel sick and I end up crying and overthinking everything all over again. Hes doing everything he said he wouldnt do and his ego cost us our relationship... to see him fill the voids this way has made me never want to go back.

So I’m making a decision for at least 30 days then 40 and onwards. No fake accounts, no looking through friends accounts, no searching their name, nothing. I don’t care if I get the urge, I’m not doing it its killed me off.

For 30 days:

• No checking their profile
• No checking their stories
• No checking followers/following
• No fake accounts to check.
• keeping them blocked or muted.

If your in a similar situation and your also struggling with checking your ex’s socials, please join me. We can hold each other accountable and come back here when we get the urge instead of checking. I dont want to be alone in this :( i srsly want to heal im sick of this. Knowing each day hes posting is hurting ive deleted social medias and blocked him EVERYWHERE and made the fake acc and checked and its set me back, never again.

Even if you’ve relapsed 100 times, start again today. I’m starting todayy.

What would you do in this situation? im so upset and full of anger.

I want revenge so bad, do i remain silent and ghost mode for months? the amount of hatred i feel the fact that hes doing all these things is disgusting me. Do i remain off social media and off all platforms he can reach me on and keep him unblocked? or do i go back on socials and add men and post myself everywhere to ruin his ego because hes really testing me its sickening me. Just the day before NC he told me he will always love me and waits for my statuses on whatsapp to see if im okay LMFAO he couldnt care less about my feelings since hes done the things that ruined our relationship in the first place? hes posting stories each day acting nonchalant i feel so sick my life feels so gone and hes out everyday it isnt fair. How do i stop checking my body forces me i hate this i went a week without checking and my body forced me please give advice on what i can do? any advice will mean the world to me, please dont be harsh i just got done crying on the ground im vulnerable :( bless you if you advice me.

i blocked him everywhere deleted all social media completely he has no access to me. He keeps doing the same mistakes after each breakup he immediately adds women and posts himself and makes every account public whereas ive gone ghost. Im in raging anger that hes done this again the last time he did this my life nearly ended as he drove me insane and added women and shoved it in my face after he promised me this time he wouldnt do those things for at least a month because it affects my mental health. The worst part is if i did he what he did, such as add men and post myself he would GO INSANE and call me a sl@g but its okay for him to do these things? its the audacity this has been a reoccuring thing that has destroyed me several times in the relationship he knows i nearly died when he last did this to me that i cried in my dads arms and i never cry to my parents YET HES DONE IT AGAIN? And added women instantly. the last time we contacted i told him we need remain no contact because what hes done and our rs in general isnt good and then we ended up arguing and i said i pray this eats at you each day because he made me out to be crazy and refused all accountability and said i deserved to die that day and that i deserve pain hes really broken me in half. Idk what to do, i want revenge so bad hes hurt me too much to get away with this constant emotional damage to me. Please help. Hes acting so unbothered, this is the longest ive been no contact for and off social medias he cant find me ANYWHERE do i remain this way, i was literally going to get socials and do the same thing and hurt him and act unbothered but idk whats the best hes a narcassist btw he runs from emotions.

The last message he recieved from me was me crying and saying " i pray this eats at you when your all alone without distractions, you nasty human. " then i immediately blocked and i deleted every access he doesnt have a clue what im upto.

i was doing so well not checking i havent broke no contact in 3 weeks but today i ended up checking his socials on a fake account and immediately deleted it and what i saw has proved to me he will never change, he even deliberatly showed his vape and him driving he told me he quit for a year and now hes back into it, he lied all along. Hes turning into everything he said he wouldnt be or do and that kills me.

I’ve been doing automatic lessons since February, around 40 hours total, and I’ve been doing 2-hour lessons a week. My test is in exactly 4 weeks so that means 8 lessons left and I’m really stressed because it feels like everything has been left until the last minute, even though I’ve told my instructor so many times that my test is in September. Im not complaining im just thinking is this normal to not know things within 4 weeks left.

I’ve only done bay parking around 4 times, barely done slip roads, haven’tdone sat-nav/ mock test yet, and I’m still being guided rather than making the decisions independently. im going to have a word with him tomorrow but is this normal?

He now wants me to start doing 4 hours a week instead of 2. Is it actually worth doing the 4 hours even though it’s very costly, or should I stick to 2 hours. My savings will end up going towards those 4 hours and im worried if i fail and 4 hours are wasted since the next test would be next year.

I’m worried bc the next available tests I’m seeing are next year and I need my licence so I can look for better job opportunities and finally have some freedom as i go nowhere.

I also did private lesson with my dad the other day and i could not do bay parking at all. Im starting to worry. My dad has limited patience and is a perfectionist but he cant teach me how to bay park properly we spent an hour and i was incapable. Its making me worried doing lessons with my dad is so hard and stressful but theirs nobody else to do it with.

What would you do in my situation? Would you do 4 hours a week from now? is it normal to be around 4 weeks until test and barely do bay parking and slip roads and sat nav/ barely any independent driving/ mock tests. He says im a good driver and a fast learner we mainly just roam around the roads. im starting to panic. What do i tell the instructor?

its destroying me badly, seeing him attention seeking off others and posting himself everywhere after traumatising me. Its like i have no control over my brain it forces me to check even tho i want to seriously move on my health has gone so bad. im hurt.

i have no control over my mind it forces me to check and ive seen the worst and its made me sick. Please someone motivate me to NEVER check again. its ruined my health and sanity, made me feel worthless seeing how hes replaced me with numerous girls added and the constant posting himself. it hurts to see him fill the void this way its hurting me

i feel sick i have no words my health is bad and my gut was forcing me to check today and i checked and hes doing everything to get others attention its making me question who i was dating, the audacity to tell me few weeks ago that he will never forget me or move on thank god i blocked him.

Can someone motivate me to delete all social medias i never want to check but its like an addiction it hurts please dont be too harsh on me im at rock bottom :( seeing him happy is ruining me since hes the one who broke me badly. It hurts to see how fragile his ego is to add women straight after we breakup and posting his face everyday.

im new to this forum please can i ask for advice. Ive already deleted everything an hour ago i just want to see others if they ever experienced the same as me and what helped them.

Long story short, ever since i was 5 years old i got introduced to social media. Lets just say, it has severely damaged my brain with the access i had. My screen time is insane. I spent years comparing myself constantly to others and trying to fit in and developed bad addictions. My self esteem is now insanely low.

Im recently going through a really bad breakup and its making me want to disappear off social media for good. I feel like that was my final sign. As looking at my exs social media has made me sick and develop health issues on how triggering he has been and how okay he seems after traumatising me. It sounds stupid but its become an addiction to look at other peoples lifes and feel so insecure. I want to break free. My brain is so damaged with what ive seen on social media. Its a constant cycle of looking at those who have hurt me. The algorthim is the main thing it shows me things i dont want to see and triggers me each day and the brain rot has shocked me. Tiktok has been the worst for me. Its filled with such lustful stuff and heartbreaking things and brain rot. I cant stand it and seeing my ex on there it just makes me sick.

For anyone who has quit social media long term, did it improve your mental health? what helped you stay away when you had the urge to come back. Im looking for motivation pls i want to change my life im at the lowest and social media has made me so much worse. It feels like im going cold turkey but i cannot be on social medias at all now what ive seen has triggered me. I have not used ai im making this bold because its the questions i want to ask. Any help will be so appreciated i want to feel less alone in this. thank you ❤️

im currently crying my soul out, i was being mature so mature and all he did was laugh at me and send voice messages laughing at me constantly when i said why are you this way why are you ruining my healing, i blocked him everywhere possible he made a new number to hurt me he said he isnt bothered at the fact im in pain rn and proceeded to laugh when i sent a voice message of me crying saying how evil can someone be, he came back to send a lustful tiktok video and i got angry and he laughed im now insane ive been crying on the floor for hours i told him ill never forgive him i wish he didnt break no contact to do this, hes mentally insane he wouldnt apologise for what he did and sent he called me a crazy girl even tho he provoked that out of me.

he already took so much of my life away and bad things keep happening to me and he keeps adding onto it, hes now set me back deeply i need advice on how to move on to someone like this the amount of resentment im feeling right now i have so much anger towards him

What did he get out of hurting me today and the lengths he goes to to avoid accountability is disgusting hes making me out to be insane i dont know what to do please someone comfort me hes set me back deeply i hate ending on bad terms but ive cussed him out and he laughed and i blocked. THIS HURTS SO MUCH im not ok :(

what is he getting out of sending me that tiktok video please someone help. It was out of nowhere its making me sick im triggered

i blocked my ex everywhere after telling him that him breaking no contact after a month has made me worse and insane and ruined my progess he agreed. Im already going through so much things and guess what on a fake number he texts and sends a tiktok and i was thinking it must be about me i opened it and its about how sexual he is and how having a d"ck is hard having to get up each morning and owner beating it.

The amount of disgust im feeling right now i hate lustful men and to see he hanst changed is sending me into pyschosis i threw everything in my room and started crying badly ive cussed him out the audacity to send that to me. Please someone tell me what he gets out of sending that tiktok to me please, its making no sense to me im in so much anger sorry if this is too much but this is my breaking point he already ruined my healing now made a fake number to send something like that, ive just said evil things to him and spammed him with how much anger i feel, i feel insane please someone comfort me what do i do about this what do i genuinely do lust is such a trigger for me i hate it. i have so much resentment towards him im sick im sorry if im overreacting but this is my breaking point. any support and comment will help me feel less alone i need it

he seriously came back to wind me up and make me angry, he broke a month of no contact to enrage me. I never wanted to end on bad terms but i just swore at him so badly and blocked him. Hes playing mind games with me can someone just help me to cope im crying so badly, he ignored me for 26 hours after texting me and admitted it and then made me out to be insane. Now hes turned evil again so i lashed out and blocked. I hate ending on bad terms im shaking. I feel so annoyed i was doing so well this month i was doing so okay and he comes and ruins it ive blocked him on the last thing he had me on. Can someoen comfort me please and give advice on how to move forward now hes thrown me in rock bottom again i crashed out on him and blocked. hes selfish and immature it makes me sick. All those healing weeks have been RUINED i feel even worse than before now its ended on bad terms imcrying sm sorry if i sound insane this is built up emotions.

FYI IM NOT TRYING TO LOSE IT FAST OR UNHEALTHY! the doctor reccomended me to be at 54-55kg so please dont think im trying to do unhealthy ways.

Over the past year 've gone from 55kg to 72kg due to stress trauma and my goal is to get back to around 54kg because im reccomended to be that weight or 53kg. The weight gain is starting to affect my health A LOT , and I know I need to make a change. Im classed as overweight

Background info: i eat two times a day i barely eat a lot tbh i think im gaining weight because after i eat i barely do any exercise or movement because of depression or laziness i rarely do any activities, my job is within a car so i dont move. It just shocked me on how i gained it so fast in a year ive never been in the overweight category but maybe its because i keep bed rotting i dont know.

The problem is that I have no idea how to lose weight in a healthy, sustainable way. I dont know what truly works i want to lose the weight then become toned.

I also really struggle with motivation and discipline. I can start something for a few days, but I find it hard to stick with it. i want to lose weight its really affecting my health like i cant even go up the stairs without feeling out of breathe or just daily activities . I want to be in the best shape. I suffer with depression and bpd and got iron issues, so my brain fogs a lot and i give up easily.

The main areas of fat is my upper arms, rib fat and stomach fat and face fat. i just want to be slim again its affecting my confidence so bad im getting stretch marks under my arms which idk if its normal but im getting stretch marks everywhere.

Any advice will be so appreciated i need this.

Long story short, he has a huge ego i didnt expect him to even break no contact. I posted a story of myself enjoying myself in the mountains which i never do ( on whatsapp, the only place he has access to me on as ive removed social medias) he viewed it and broke almost a month contact to ask where am i and how did i end up in the mountains.

Im just upset because we ended up having a normal convo he kept going and now hes disappeared for a day and i said yesterday can we just agree to blocking eachother on this last place we have access to eachother on because my healing has reset from this pointless conversation now its been a full day and he has not responded. i dont get what he got out of breaking no contact with me when hes the one who caused me so much pain.

I feel like hes done this so i overthink and to play mind games with me to ruin my healing process because i was trying to move on now im literally on edge waiting for this response its making me not eat or sleep. Its making me angry. Its just crazy to me because hes the one who pushed me away and we cant ever get back together he even told me to never contact him because it will ruin our healing he said he wont ever break it to ruin mine now hes literally ruined my healing process so i stay upset about him. We broke up almost two months ago ahe was toxic he said he wants me to mourn over him forever and stay traumatised now hes acting as if nothing happened we were having a normal convo and now hes disappeared its mind gaming me.

should i just block him? im worried about his response.i feel so sick and anxious its been a whole 24 hours and i double texted saying just respond so we can end this properly because this has been pointless, he hasnt even viewed the messages. The silence is killing me.

Ill update if he responds im giving him till midnight then i will just block. It hurts a lot to be silenced this way when i was doing so well.

Long story short, he has a huge ego i didnt expect him to even break no contact. I posted a story of myself enjoying myself in the mountains which i never do ( on whatsapp, the only place he has access to me on as ive removed social medias) he viewed it and broke almost a month contact to ask where am i and how did i end up in the mountains.

Im just upset because we ended up having a normal convo he kept going and now hes disappeared for a day and i said yesterday can we just agree to blocking eachother on this last place we have access to eachother on because my healing has reset from this pointless conversation now its been a full day and he has not responded. i dont get what he got out of breaking no contact with me when hes the one who caused me so much pain.

I feel like hes done this so i overthink and to play mind games with me to ruin my healing process because i was trying to move on now im literally on edge waiting for this response its making me not eat or sleep. Its making me angry. Its just crazy to me because hes the one who pushed me away and we cant ever get back together he even told me to never contact him because it will ruin our healing he said he wont ever break it to ruin mine now hes literally ruined my healing process so i stay upset about him. We broke up almost two months ago ahe was toxic he said he wants me to mourn over him forever and stay traumatised now hes acting as if nothing happened we were having a normal convo and now hes disappeared its mind gaming me.

should i just block him? im worried about his response.i feel so sick and anxious its been a whole 24 hours and i double texted saying just respond so we can end this properly because this has been pointless, he hasnt even viewed the messages. The silence is killing me.

FYI IM NOT TRYING TO LOSE IT FAST OR UNHEALTHY! the doctor reccomended me to be at 54-55kg so please dont think im trying to do unhealthy ways.

Over the past year 've gone from 55kg to 72kg due to stress trauma and my goal is to get back to around 54kg because im reccomended to be that weight or 53kg. The weight gain is starting to affect my health A LOT , and I know I need to make a change. Im classed as overweight

Background info: i eat two times a day i barely eat a lot tbh i think im gaining weight because after i eat i barely do any exercise or movement because of depression or laziness i rarely do any activities, my job is within a car so i dont move. It just shocked me on how i gained it so fast in a year ive never been in the overweight category but maybe its because i keep bed rotting i dont know.

The problem is that I have no idea how to lose weight in a healthy, sustainable way. I dont know what truly works i want to lose the weight then become toned.

I also really struggle with motivation and discipline. I can start something for a few days, but I find it hard to stick with it. i want to lose weight its really affecting my health like i cant even go up the stairs without feeling out of breathe or just daily activities . I want to be in the best shape. I suffer with depression and bpd and got iron issues, so my brain fogs a lot and i give up easily.

The main areas of fat is my upper arms, rib fat and stomach fat and face fat. i just want to be slim again its affecting my confidence so bad im getting stretch marks under my arms which idk if its normal but im getting stretch marks everywhere.

Any advice will be so appreciated i need this.

Breaking no contact resets the emotional attachment and is like reopening a woundd.

Every time you check their profile, reply to a message, or look for signs they still care, your brain gets pulled back into the attachment cycle. Healing requires creating distance so your nervous system can stop treating that person as your source of comfort.

You are often missing the feeling, not the realityy

After a breakup, your mind tends to replay the good memories and the version of the person you loved. Contact can bring back hope for that version of them but the reality of why the relationship ended is still there.

A response rarely gives the closure you imaginee

A lot of people break no contact hoping for an apology, reassurance, or one perfect conversation that makes everything make sense. Closure usually comes from accepting what happened not from getting the right response from the person who hurt you.

Small interactions can create biggg emotional setbacks

A simple hey or a like on a story or checking their social media might seem harmless, but if you're still attached, those small moments can trigger days of overthinking, anxiety, and analysing their behaviour. I learnt this the HARD way. Now i am more broken than ever but i will continue to heal and not make the same mistakesss. I reccomend removing them off all platforms if you truly want to heal.

No contact helps you rebuild your identity

After a relationship ends, especially a painful one, your brain can stay focused on "us" instead of "me." No contact creates the space to rediscover your routines, confidence, friendships, and goals without constantly being influenced by the other person this about you not themm. Put your focus back onto yourself. Dont give them the power to take over your life, they already took enough from youuu! stay strong x

Choose the peace you are trying to build over the temporary comfort of hearing from them.

Hes the dumper but it was mutual. My ex and I agreed to stay no contact because we both knew breaking it would set us back. I blocked him everywhere except WhatsApp and deleted all social medias. He told me he wouldnt contact because its over forever and texting will ruin us more our relationship ended on a bad note so im confused on how hes so normal talking to me? as if were okay?

Yesterday i posted a story of me on whatsapp exploring in the mountains because im never out i posted it . He replied saying, "Damn, where's that?" I told him, and then he asked, "How the hell did you end up there?" I replied, "I'm just doing random side quests."

Instead of the conversation ending there, he got really hung up on the fact I called it a "side quest." He said, "How tf is that a side quest? You don't even know what a side quest is. Why are you saying side quest?" I explained that I just meant it was something random and out of the ordinary for me because I never usually go exploring in the mountains.

What confuses me is he didn't mention our relationship, say he missed me, or try to get back together. He literally broke no contact just to ask where I was and then get defensive over me saying that ive been doing side quests and then he tried act nice at the end. It completely ruined my mood like why set our healing back? Hes acting so normal its insane like what does he get out of this?

Then, when he realised I was getting defensive, he suddenly changed his tone and said, "I'm glad you're doing something for your peace. Keep it up." I was so mad and replied " okay" and he liked the message and he did this last week where he replied to my story and says he likes this new me and then liked my message when i replied, i dont understand him at all he severely traumatised me in this breakup and pushed me to rock bottom now hes acting as if everythings okay

I'm genuinely confused. If he was the one saying we'd never speak again and should both move on, why is he the one breaking no contact over something so random? Why get so technical over one word? Am I overthinking this, or should I just block him on WhatsApp since it's the only way he can contact me?

i had to delete social medias for my own peace of mind because his life seemed way better than mine and i was feeling sick looking at his socials so i disappeared. He has a huge ego and has narcassistic traits. is he just trying to make me on edge like why just like my message twice on two occassions he agreed for me to never text him and to move on.