u/Formal-Laugh-8665

Over the last 1.5 weeks, he had been constantly pointing out the tiniest misses. He points them out highly passive-aggressively. I end up feeling terrible and making more mistakes.

The mistakes we're talking about:
- Leaving a cell colored with the wrong scale of color
- Missing a point to be mentioned in an email (out of 8-9 other points)
- Storming at me because I was not reachable for 30 mins - wasn't well, took a break
- Legal contract draft - Compiling two legal contracts under time pressure, highlighting a statement I was fearing was an incorrect wording and turned out to be incorrect - he emailed me how my quality of output was very low and does not work. There was 1 other miss in the document too but on the remaining things I was being stormed at in-writing for things that are legal knowledge, that I didn't have/ directly borrowed from another fully vetted contract I was asked to refer from.
- Mass reachouts to ~100 people, sending 1 email to someone I was asked not to - client called out my mistake and my manager made me write an apology email to the client.
- Financial summary: reporting a standalone number for one year instead of consolidated - he asked me to email my partner apologizing for the miss

I get these are misses but they're increasing because of a negative reinforcement loop. I literally feel "scared" to come to office everyday because of the way he is behaving. He just behaves with me like this, very cool with other team members - so I'm not sure if it is genuinely my fault.

I understand as an MBB consultant, my work should be spotless but he has misled me with the modules I'd be given, off lately (same 1-2 weeks) doesn't let me lead meetings, holds discussions with clients and case leadership on my modules in my absence. On the other hand he spends 80% of his time with the other person on the team that makes me feel castaway.

It is my last week on the case, have been on it for ~a year now. My manager has had a history of being very recency biased.

I feel terrible. Should i resign?

I'm doomed, very likely won't find a good next case and he will very likely screw up my evals.

Really looking for advice - am I genuinely going wrong, not meant for consulting or am I being too harsh on myself? How do I navigate this situation?

Hi,

I let this one carry for too long.

And once again I’m looking towards reddit to save me from drowning.

It was abusive, traumatic and I still let myself into that relationship because I had nothing else that could be better for me to devote my life to. I was trying passively but everyday was a chaos - fights, crying, screaming.

He mocked me in front of his friends. Called my behaviour terrible. He had specific problems with me and I did not have ways to convince him- despite blatant proof/everything I did, he came back still unconvinced.

He has slapped me, mocked me and verbally abused me.

Over the last few days, he’d gotten my phone password so he would pry into my phone - he recently messages two people I had spoken to before meeting him. He was planning to call them to a common place and take me there too, in the name of a date night. I somehow figured this out before the night and cancelled my plans.

He on the other hand, has been willingly meeting marriage prospects, people on Bumble and messaging his past dates and exes. And everytime I used to try to bring that up, he used to bring up something on me and then on we went with our endless fights.

He has spread enough mockery on me among our batchmates and colleagues.

And the reason I couldn’t get out of it was because I really don’t have friends I can gel with.

I’m much stronger but I am in an absolute state of wreck rn.

How do I come out of this? I don’t want to fall back into the spiral and let him contact me/ fall weak and contact him again. I want a quick habit to pick, a friend to find so I don have to fall into that mess again.

Someone please help. I don’t think I have what it needs to shell out my hard earned money into therapy - just not able to.

tl;dr: I’ll really appreciate any support- any quick ways to stop me from getting back into that relationship
And I know I might sound like a mess - trust me, I was much stronger. Just need some help right now.