u/Formerlymoody

Hi!

I don’t know what I’m looking for exactly here. maybe looking for insight and people that can relate.

I was in a BSE style closed adoption in the early 80s. I found out TODAY the extent to which the entire maternal side of my family was against adopting me out. I always thought at least my bio grandfather (grandma was dead) was pushing the idea (he was an old school Catholic). Turns out, he did not approve of me being adopted out. in b mom‘s words there were several family members who were „furious„ at her.

I did not have the heart in the moment to ask her why the hell she did it anyway. She started crying, of course, funny how I can stay dry eyed…maybe after i digest more I’ll ask her. But W. T. F?

It seems like my b dad‘s side would have never supported it, either, but he didn’t tell them.

Am I the world‘s most improbable adoptee, or what? B mom did have a trauma history but a career and money…

Hi all,

I posted before about how many practicum opportunities that were coming up for me were faith-based. I got a lot of good advice and have just started at a faith based organization that I thought would be fine. Full disclosure, for many reasons I couldn't afford to be picky. I grew up Christian and the culture isn't too foreign for me, even if I don't share the belief system.

During the interview process, they never asked a single question about my values nor did I communicate in a way that suggested I was a Christian.

I started two days ago. I thought everything was fine and was gratified to learn they do not discriminate against queer/trans clients (young adult population). So far, so good.

As part of my orientation, I've been reading all the organization's materials. Trying to not be too identifying, but it turns out they do discriminate in who they partner with. They are also pro-life, which makes me very uncomfortable. I did have to dig pretty deep into the materials to find this info.

Everything has started off so great and my supervisor has talked about me working for them eventually. Unfortunately, there is no way in hell I will ever call a queer couple and tell them they don't qualify for a program. This is how they suggest handling inquiries from queer people. It is SUCH bullshit to me that what is ok for the client population is not ok for partners in a position of relative privilege/power. Literally gross.

I feel slightly ill and am very disappointed. It's mostly a great organization but this is a deal breaker for me. This is obviously kind of a vent and a bid for similar stories but I also have one question:

Would you tell them? When?

I'm planning on letting them know in the exit interview why I can't work with them in the future. I hate staying silent for so long! But I really need the position/reference. I have some hope that my immediate supervisor won't hold this against me. She has made some very inclusive statements, but is obviously still willing to work for them.

I won't make this mistake again because this sucks so bad...

Which bio family members?

How did it go?

Not considering it currently but I might in the long run...near bio sibs to be exact. I would never move for just b parents given the...history.

Hello my lovely fellow social work students! I am offering my used textbooks free to a good home. I will not be charging for shipping, just know that I am shipping from Europe so it might take a minute. I would prefer someone to take all but would consider dividing into two shipments. More or less first come, first serve? Write a comment claiming which classes' books you need and I will DM you.

No APA formatting for references! It's my first day of vacation and I am OVER it! Lol

SW 521:

Social Economic and Environmental Justice. Benner, Loeffler and Pope. 2022

SW 625:

The Helping Professional's Guide to Ethics. Bryan, Sanders and Kaplan. 2nd Ed. 2022

SW 630:

Social Welfare Policy and Programs. Segal. 4th Ed. 2020

SW 636:

Social Work Skills for Community Practice. Brown, Stalker. 2nd Ed. 2023.

Five Life Stages of Nonprofit Organizations. Sharken Simon, Donovan. 2001