r/GrindsMyGears

Not every person, clearly, but enough that people now think that telling them to be more considerate of others in public is "rude" and "controlling."

Loud car enjoyers - inconsiderate. No, it's not "just for a few seconds" I have to put up with your loud car rolling through my area, and why are y'all doing it after 10pm? Did you forget you're being obnoxiously noisy after quiet hours or something?

Loud music enjoyers - Dude, who asked to listen to your taste in music all throughout town? We all don't have the same tastes, and no, we don't all need to hear your "superior" (subjective!) taste.

Speakerphones in public - really? and then you look at people like they're off their nut when they join in? There are options if you're hard of hearing that don't involve speakerphone.

Facetiming and including randos in your facetime - did I ask to be filmed? no. Knock that off.
Same with filming randos in public for 'content' - Get a damn life.

Deciding you don't need headphones on public transit of any kind - No one asked about your tiktok feed. Or your music. Or your youtube choices. Any of that. Bluetooth headphones aren't that expensive, go get some.

You may feel like you're the main character in your story, but you are not the main character in anyone else's. You're either just another person or a source of annoyance. Choose wisely.

On almost every social media platform and even irl, people will act like obscure knowledge is common sense. They will act like everyone should know everything that has and ever will exist to make allusions too. It is ridiculous childlike behavior.

Why ask a question, especially personal ones or ones that have a high likelihood of having a bad answer, and then get POed at the person because they didn't like the response?

A popular one is "Were/How were you spanked as a child?" No matter anyone's history with spanking, that question alone implies that answers involving child abuse would be accepted, since many people already view spanking as a form of child abuse. But say anything worse than "Yes but not much" and they act like your trauma dumping on them for no reason. Some parents can be very heavy handed, for better or for worse and I'm sure I'm not the only one who answers with "My parents liked using the belt."

Or when they ask if youre dating anyone and get mad when you say yes or they realize youre in a LGBT/interracial relationship.

Or ask about your plan for kids and don't like being told youre infertile or exploring other means of conception that dont align with their beliefs (like IVF or foster)

My personal favorite, and one I am now absolutely refusing to answer anymore, is "What is living in foster care like?" USA's foster system is notorious for abuse. Why ask that and get angry at me because my answer was depressing? Bro, foster as a whole is depressing. Every foster kid has had at least 1 bad experience no matter the state.

The world is not a utopia and nearly everyone has been through some shit. If one does not want to hear about said shit or cant emotionally regulate themselves when they do hear it, don't ask about it!

Some of the most insensitive and nosy people say that their curiosity is a sign of intelligence, and that people who don’t pry into personal details that are none of their business are just less intelligent than them.