u/swatted-fly

some subreddits (thankfully not this one) require flairs for posts but all the flairs are extremely specific with no miscellaneous flair, or theyre random bizarre nonsense that you wont understand unless youve been part of their group for ages

like for example, no, i dont want to pick between “commissioned digital art painted on a wednesday evening” and “art done in middle school at 9am for my teacher whos name started with a B” when im trying to post art, why is there no basic “fanart” flair or just “traditional art” flair? why does it have to be so damn specific? 😭

or god forbid those subreddits that just have nonsense like “WHAAAATTT NO WAY REALLY???” or “IT FINALLY HAPPENED!!!” like what? how am i supposed to choose a flair for my post thats just me needing to ask a question, when every option is some super specific situation in all caps?

if you dont require a flair on every post then okay thats fine! people can use a super specific flair *if they want to*! thats nice and fun! but not every post fits into the strange categories some people come up with…

i got my earlobes pierced in late january, i know they arent fully healed yet, and i know everyone heals differently, but how do i know when they are fully healed, as in i could take my earrings out and they wouldnt close?

ive seen people say theyve had theirs done for years and they still start to close if they leave their earrings out for too long, is there any way to tell that yours are at the point they wont close? or is it just something you have to gamble with to test it?

i dont have any issue sleeping on my current earrings, i dont feel them at all surprisingly and its nice, but if i use a different pillow or get different earrings that i would notice, id of course like to be able to sleep without them in. is that just something that isnt worth risking and should be avoided to begin with, or will i be able to tell someday that i can leave them out overnight without just hoping and praying i wake up and still have holes?

for some reason as of 1-2 days ago, my contribution count on my profile says only 200 something? i have written at least a thousand comments, im not sure exactly how many but i remember seeing it say 1.4k recently?

i certainly havent deleted that many things, i havent been banned from anywhere, no posts have been taken down, what happened or how do i fix it? when i scroll through my comments it definitely looks like much more than its telling me i have, so i know they didnt just disappear, but why on earth is the counter so far off all of a sudden?

i deal with this mostly from my mom but of course people online just love to do it too.

when i saw the new michael jackson movie with my mom, we both cried the whole time inexplicably. the next day i started seeing a ton of videos by a ton of different people who were also crying and just devastated about his death again, and i told my mom “ive actually been seeing a ton of videos of people also hysterical over the new michael jackson movie” and she looked at me like i was stupid and questioned what i meant. she then came back with “ohh, they were sad. thats not hysterical laughter.” uh yeah duh? i didnt say they were laughing hysterically. i said they were hysterical, like we were.

why are you correcting me as if i said something wrong when i didnt? hysterical doesnt exclusively mean showing extreme joy, its outwardly showing extreme emotion. she also claimed to have corrected me in the past when i got the book “oblivion” from my schools library, and she told me i pronounced it like “oblige-on” which no i did not? i know how to read? at least once a week ill have someone online try to correct me and say i shouldve said “your” instead of “you’re” or something thats just blatantly wrong. if you dont know something why are you correcting the person who does know? whats the goal? what do people get out of that?

ive enjoyed singing since i was like 5, and im 19 now and still like to sing and do often, and before i begin, i am not asking for nor do i want compliments or even really reassurance, i just want to know what to do

ive only ever really sang with my earbuds in and loud enough that i cant really hear myself anymore because if i can hear myself i get what feels like stage fright and i hold myself back and physically cant get past that. i rarely ever listen to recordings of myself singing, so i just got curious and recorded myself for the first time in at least a year, and oh my god… its actually awful. ive had people compliment my singing a few times irl in the past, so im at a loss for words about it because from my own perception and the few people who have heard me sing, this caught me completely off guard, but it is genuinely terrible.

the issues are that

• i can hardly distinguish where my words begin and end
• my voice sounds bizarrely deep (im a girl, and i do generally struggle with feeling like my voice sounds strange and not feminine at all, but i dont think of it as being deep?)
• its like im mumbling when im most certainly not mumbling
• im not sure what the right terms are, but its like i cant hold a note at all

everything im doing sounds completely and totally wrong, its honestly bizarre. i know im just not used to hearing my own voice but it literally has me feeling like im being gaslit, because how could it possibly be that bad? im very likely autistic, so i wonder if the way i perceive myself is already just significantly different from how others see me and if that has any influence on it too…

i took voice lessons a few times when i was 8, and i also spent a year in middle school learning about music and singing, and i performed twice and was told i sounded great. i thought id engrained what i learned into how i sing, but evidently that is not the case or ive just been executing it terribly ever since.

how do i stop doing that? how do i change the way i sing? its like i need to completely relearn everything i know. should i just watch beginner videos on youtube and pretend ive never sang in my life and trick myself into starting over? is there something else i could do? i have plenty of time to practice, and i enjoy singing so im willing to try whatever, i just have no clue what to do or where to start.

i cant afford to pay for lessons with a vocal coach or anything like that unfortunately or i would, so please just things i can do at home.

every time i turn my laptop on, i get an error from assoc.exe that says “The code execution cannot proceed because OxyPlot.dIl was not found. Reinstalling the program may fix this problem.” and idk what to do about it?

ive never intentionally used oxyplot so i dont know what happened to it other than i deleted something earlier (i got a virus and i just got irritated and got rid of it) that i assume used it? i cant and dont want to reinstall it, so how can i find whatever is still triggering this? i deleted everything associated with the thing earlier, and thought i did a good job getting everything and i dont know how to look for what could be left.

im looking at my apps that run on startup and other than assoc itself theres nothing that stands out as being unusual, and im not sure what to do from here

eta: ive run multiple full scans for viruses on my laptop today, and it says its clean now

i want to paint him for my room and also try bleach painting on a shirt, and i have ideas for which pictures i want to use but im curious to see what people think are his most iconic/recognizable photos to consider as options!

on your profile, you can go to a list of every sub you’ve ever interacted with by making a post or comment, and you can check off which ones you do and don’t want to show on your profile.

when you interact with a new subject for the first time, though, it’s automatically set to hidden. i just want to hide like six subreddits because they’re related to the city i live in and other similar details i don’t want easily findable on my account. every time I interact with a new subreddit, i don’t want to have to go in and manually allow it to show on my profile every single time. just let me hide specific ones. i don’t want to select which ones show up, i just want to hide a few.

let me just have a “hide” option where i can just set the ones to be hidden and not have to touch it again.

the current way could even be altered to be less annoying if, in the list of subreddits you’ve interacted with, they were at least sorted a little more sensibly, by the order in which you’ve interacted with them so the most recent ones are at the top.

i only want to hide my activity in like 6 subreddits, but i can only figure out how to manually select which ones DO show on my account. i want the opposite, i want to hide the 6 and not have to constantly update which ones show up, because every time i make a post in a new sub it doesnt show on my account unless i manually choose to leg it show up, its terribly annoying. is that even possible? do i need to do it from my laptop or something?

my games current version is 1.119.109 so i found the update to 1.121.361 via the comments on the sims 4 page, but when i run the installer, it gets to here and doesnt do anything else and im so confused because nothing im reading on how to update mentions this at all. my windows defender is off.

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i really only care about it not leaving marks on my clothes, i dont have bad smelling sweat and i dont sweat hard unless its super hot outside (in which case i am not outside, i get very faint)

i just want to be able to wear my black shirts and tanks without white marks, and none of the kinds ive tried that claim to not leave marks have worked. they all usually leave an obvious thick chalky trail behind on me too after even just one or two swipes and i cant stand it

im not picky about scents, just something clean and preferably a “womens” kind or gender neutral kind so i dont have to try to explain to my conservative mom that a girl wearing mens deodorant isnt a bad thing…

to preface this, no offense to stupid people, its not necessarily their fault if it was just how they were raised and they had no control over it. anyone with any kind of a learning disability is obviously not included in this. i am specifically talking about people who seem to purposely be oblivious to the most obvious kinds of common sense. i do not expect everyone to be a rocket scientist or to know everything about math or anything like that, i expect people to use common sense. half of its not even common sense, its just shit i thought came pre wired in a human brain.

got a grocery pickup order today and its been raining and will continue to rain for the next day or so. i made sure to tip the person who brought the groceries out because i know its literally their job to do pickup orders but i wanted to add an extra thanks for working in the rain. not a big order, literally like 4 bags and a bouquet of flowers. tell me WHY the pie i got wasnt in a bag and was SOAKED in rain? this has been an issue with this store a dozen times before, we’ve left feedback saying please put everything in bags. its small stuff that can fit in a bag. why is it not in a bag? and today of all things they left the FRESH PIE in one of those containers that isnt really water or air tight OUT IN THE RAIN.

i mean this shit is just. i cant. ive been complaining about people being blatantly stupid since i was FOUR years old. when i was four i walked into the apartment we were moving into and said “somebody stole the crown molding!” because id looked at the website with my mom before we rented it, and the actual apartment did not have crown molding. yes, i was 4. yes, that happened, you can ask my mom for all i care. when i was like 7 i quit ballet classes because i called my classmates idiots because they wouldnt just shut up and act right and follow the directions from the teacher, they had to fool around and disobey and act like it was cute and funny. when i started kindergarten i told my teacher i didnt want to do the scissor exercise because i already knew how to do it and the kids around me not knowing how irritated me. i asked a kid in second grade how to pronounce his name and he started spelling it. ive hated this shit my ENTIRE LIFE. i only cried in public once as a baby because when my mom told me to stop i just did and didnt do that dumb shit again. i got put in gifted classes starting in 4th grade because i was suffering being held back in the normal classes with everyone else. i went to the best middle school in my county.

i try not to think of myself as being better than people but i just see the most idiotic nonsense happening everywhere all the time and ive literally been raised to be smarter than everyone else around me. its driving me crazy and i have to keep dealing with this for like 60 more years? “thats life” dont remind me!

i saw a group of teenagers walking down the street the other day while i was eating inside a restaurant and they just stopped right in the middle of the driveway to pull into the parking lot and stood there for a solid ten minutes. ive seen so many stupid things like that just in the past month that it would take a dozen posts to list all of them, let alone in the past 10 years since the examples i gave before. the mall near me just replaced their beautiful interesting signs with stupid cheap printed flat strip shopping center signs. theyre huge hideous white rectangles now that blind you from a mile down the road when they used to look classy.

youre telling me i just have to accept that? i just have to think “yep, we have big ugly signs now, thats nice!” and move on? i have no control over this? i feel like i need to move to a cabin in the woods and never interact with another human ever again and just live in my own little world but thats not even feasible. what is this life. why is it just suffering from the idiocy displayed by all the people around me and in the world that could easily pass as not having a brain? like this is what its going to be for the rest of my life?

obviously i know that theres nothing i can do about it and worrying about it is pointless because there really isnt anything i can do, that is just such a frustrating thing to have to accept. yes, i suspect i have autism or an neurodivergent in some way. ive suspected i have adhd since i was 8 years old. regardless, i dont think theres any medication i would get prescribed (if i did spend thousands of dollars, which i do not have, to get diagnosed) that would make me not think most people are idiots.

i feel like dan hentschel. ive been watching so many of his videos for the past couple weeks because he is the only person i have ever seen express the same frustration i have. everyone else just says “get used to it” or “thats life” but he gets it.

rant over.

i want to delete 72 messages from someone in a server i own, the messages get as old as almost 2 years old. dyno has a two week old message limit, and banning them can only delete the past 7 days of messages, and id really rather not delete these all by hand. are there any bots that can purge messages from a user and dont have a limit on how old the messages can be?

i love a good “white people taco,”crunchy shell, basic ingredients like beef, lettuce, tomato, shredded cheese, and sour cream. WHY do some people feel the need to act like you’re an idiot for not preferring soft tacos or street tacos or any other variation of tacos that arent hard shell? i love birria tacos, but i like hard shell basic tacos too, let me enjoy it, its not hurting anyone. yes im white, yes i enjoy a lot of the “white” foods that exist but i also love a lot of food from other cultures, leave me be..

another not really related pet peeve but also food related is when people act like you’re insane for drinking a room temperature soda? ill get a box of soda cans, and if its a new drink ive never had before, i might open one and try it before its sat in the fridge for six hours… oh no, the horror… is it secretly offensive to drink a room temp soda or something? ive met people whove gotten genuinely upset at me for this… you wouldnt even know the soda was “warm” just by looking at me drinking it, you only know its warm because you know i just got the sodas and haven’t refrigerated them yet. im not making you drink one, it still tastes good, i will live, calm down…