r/Positivity

Progress isn't always loud.

Sometimes progress is getting out of bed when yesterday felt impossible. Sometimes it's choosing kindness instead of anger. Sometimes it's trying again after failing. Sometimes it's simply believing tomorrow might be a little better. 

We often celebrate giant leaps and overlook the tiny steps that actually get us there.

If you've made even one small positive choice today, give yourself some credit. Tiny victories have a funny way of becoming life-changing ones over time.

Hope everyone finds at least one reason to smile today. ❤️

ive been thrifting all of the twilight saga (books and movies, hopefully ill find the soundtrack cds eventually) and i just started actually using my DVDs of the movies because they left the streaming service i was watching them on, and its so wonderful

i love being able to pause the movie (or bonus content!) and leave the room and come back 20 minutes later and there not be an ad on my screen. not having to worry about my wifi going out or lagging is also wonderful, and its literally just such a good feeling to use a dvd and know i own the movie.

its also just so nice to go back to how it was for me growing up with DVDs, since i still have the same TV i grew up with which has a built in DVD player, so its nostalgic and also just feels good to use physical media anyway instead of just interacting with a touch screen or buttons on a remote

i love physical media!!!

What keeps you motivated and productive these days?

We all have our own challenges and responsibilities, and some days are definitely harder than others. Despite that, we still find ways to keep moving forward. :)

I'd love to hear what's been helping you stay motivated lately. Whether it's a goal you're working toward, a new habit you've built, your family, your business, or simply taking things one day at a time.

Feel free to share what's on your mind. Sometimes writing things down and hearing from people who can relate can make things feel a little lighter.

My wife and I have been happily married for 27 years. Two daughters, one who is grown with a young family of her own now. The other who is coming up on senior year of high school.

We remained in one geographic location for 17 years, wanting a relocation, but constrained financially. We got that relocation 5 years ago, but now feel ostracized by family for not remaining “nearby” (we moved 4 hours south).

I’m looking for tips from those who have made adult decisions, on their own, using their own resources, but perhaps have had regret over those decisions. How did you become content that you, yourself, own your decisions, and become proud of that fact?

Honestly, it still blows my mind a little bit, because today is officially day 365. I won't lie and say I don't remember that morning coffee or how wild those weekend nights used to be, but looking back now, I wouldn't trade where I am today to get any of those old habits back.

The honeymoon phase is over, and this is what my life actually looks like right now:

My identity totally changed
For the first six or so months, I felt like a smoker just "trying really hard not to smoke." I felt like an out-of-shape dude forcing himself to exercise. But today? I'm just a guy who hits the gym and prioritizes his health. It isn't a daily battle anymore, it's simply who I am. The mental shift is 100% complete.

The cravings are completely dead!
Even around month seven, I still had some tough days where I missed my old habits. But now, at a full year, I can sit in a room with people who are drinking or smoking, and I feel absolutely nothing.

My energy is stable all day
Before, my energy was a crazy rollercoaster. I needed coffee to wake up, junk food for a quick energy boost, and cheaps with a beer to relax at night. Now, I just wake up feeling actually rested. I have the same energy level from the morning until I go to sleep.

How I protect my new life
I do not rely on motivation till now. Because "you do not rise to the level of your goals; you fall to the level of your daily systems."

So every evening I journal and write down everything I want to get done the next day, so I wake up and just do it, without even thinking about my old bad habits.

Also, my faith is still my foundation. Knowing God provides me with strength and that I am forgiven removes all that daily anxiety. I don't need to be perfect.
To track my habits and be more focused I'm using notes and Growy Goals app. And if you also have problems with screen time as I had one, you can try using Opal or OneSec.

My advice if you are just starting
Stop stressing over how you'll manage the next five years without your bad habits. Just create a simple daily routine, stick with it, and trust the journey. A year will pass regardless, so you might as well spend it improving yourself)

Who is starting today?

It doesn't have to be anything big. Maybe someone said something kind, you found a great song, had a good meal, or just had a nice moment during the day.

For me, it's the little things that often end up being the most memorable.

What about you?

What is something that gives you a purpose in life? How do you find meaning in your life these days? What makes you want to get up everyday and enjoy your day?

Or is life just supposed to feel completely meaningless at our age?

Looking for answers that can help me a little.

I realized that when I acted negative, then people just simply won’t want to be around you. they’ll just cut you off and that’s it (but I did get the hate and rudeness, but I never got bullied for being negative).

However, I got way more hate when I portrayed myself as a positive person. I even got bullied by a boy when I was in HS for being a nice person.

I guess that was why I was so negative…because it protected me from being let down and hurt and bullied all the time.

Even on this very website and IG, I did face way more hate and scrutiny than I did when I was negative…because I held myself accountable and called people out on how they tend to blame others and refuse to look in the mirror.

Pretty much as the title says. I finally had the courage to walk out of the job that was disrespecting me today. There was this one manager who was just one of those stereotypical workplace bullies who constantly would try to belittle me and make me feel small.

But today i said no more and walked. Leaving him with having to deal with the mess he created. I feel great i should have done this sooner because it feels so freeing to actually choose your own peace over a job.

The best part is i have another job lined up which is much better and with nicer people so i am so happy i made the decision to just leave that toxic workplace that i was in.

Welcome to Positivity Friday! Let's chat about the good things that happened this week.

Your normal day is someone else's dream, the things you complain about, someone else is wishing for, the routine you are tired of, is a life someone would trade everything to have,so don't take it for granted before you realise it mattered, Appreciate it now before it becomes something you miss.❤️❤️🫶

I started a snail mail club in April. I have maybe 2 subscribers now by June.

This week one of them, a mum, wrote to tell me her four-year-old daughter received her first letter on Sunday. It's a letter from a shy hedgehog called Prickly (I write a children's version too, where the letters come from a fictional hedgehog in a hawthorn hedge).

In the letter, Prickly invites her to write back to him, to the woodland, with the help of a bee called Buzzy who fetches the post.

The mum told me that on Sunday morning, her daughter sat and wrote a letter to the woodland, thanking it for the trees and the plants and the animals. They walked out to their garden (which backs onto woodland) and "posted" it into the trees.

That same afternoon, Prickly's letter arrived. The kid had spent the morning having a tea party with her stuffed animals. And the letter from Prickly was all about him having his first ever tea party with the bee.

Coincidences like this are the whole reason I do snail mail. Anyway, I just wanted to share with people who would understand.

Snail mail still does something nothing else can!