Ex wife
TLDR: should the ex wife be going to his house for emotional support? Should be more insistant on boundaries?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months.
We actually met a year ago while he was living with his ex while also working with a mediator for divorce. We went on 3-4 dates and had started to fall for each other (I am also in the divorce process). So we dated last year late April-late May.
He broke it off with me to try again with his wife because she begged him when she learned about me. Howeverx she didnt really want to be with him, she just wanted to stay living like divorced couple but with him paying for her life, if that makes sense. She had cheated on him for a long time before they decided to divorce and she was a stay at home mom.
So, when he broke he it off with me, I told him good luck and I wish I could meet him in 6 months when he was in a different place in his divorce/life. I kinda moved on and dated someone else which also didn’t work out. He reached out 6 months later, had come to realize the deadness of his marriage and had moved out. We picked up where we left off but even intensified and talk daily with several dates a week. We’re both parents and our kids have met each other etc.
His middle son is graduating high school this weekend. He invited me to the brunch, not the ceremony, which was appropriate.
She was upset this past Friday night when the son blew her off on an event. I guess she came to my boyfriends house to talk with their college daughter and get support. I feel uncomfortable that she’s going for emotional support. I told my boyfriend, he understood and likes that I spoke up about something that made me uncomfortable.
But am I being an idiot? I don’t want to share him with her. And I don’t want him to get seduced by her. They were married for 23 years. He’s 49. He is sure that he would never get back with her. But isn’t that just words.