u/Fragrant_Umpire_5113

I’m starting to think my MIL is a narcissist

I hate using that word. I don’t think it’s a fair word in general because narcissism can be difficult to diagnose. However, this lady has hit the nail on the head. She’s one of those sweet narcissists who can do no wrong. She could crash your car and talk about good her intentions were & if you cried, she would be crying harder.

My MIL is in town visiting our 3 month old and it’s 4am as I write this. I’m usually open to changing my perspective on things when she’s physically around, instead of ruminating in my head and going to worst case scenarios. But unfortunately, I’m building resentment in the room next door.

This woman (who I don’t know very well), has already broken down in front of me several times talking about her relationship with her mom, her sister, her 3 ex husbands, money, etc and I’m already burnt ~the fuck~ out.

I honestly walk around egg shells with this woman. I feel like picking up my own baby from her is an emotional feat. I feel like this woman is constantly judging my every move. I FEEL everything so heavily in my gut despite the circumstances, but have a hard time aligning it in the moment, and then moments of overwhelm like this happen 😭

This woman thinks her son is going to save her. She thinks he will get her a job and eventually a house in the state that we live in, which is INSANE because he only has 10k in the bank. We are not married and she is the only reason why I wouldn’t want to marry him because she sounds like she would be a money pit.

I am burnt out by this lady through and through. Just felt the need to ramble.

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u/Fragrant_Umpire_5113 — 19 hours ago

her husband is cheating, but she’s a baddie

she is very private, often keeping to herself but extremely social; type A

she deeply hates her husband, as seen in her narration

somewhat comedic.. bonus points if she keeps her husband’s secrets.

u/Fragrant_Umpire_5113 — 10 days ago

Longer stretches… are we heading in the right direction?

For context, I got an Oura ring to track my sleep. Otherwise, how does one know without it? 😭

LO is 9 weeks. She has been sleeping for 3, sometimes 4 hours consecutively the last few weeks in the beginning of our night. If she moves in the slightest, I wake up, as you can see.. but otherwise, she’s sleeping longer!

Is this putting us in the right direction for longer sleep patterns? What is your experience?

I wake up more than she does so it’s harder to tell.. but I’m really hoping this is how it starts. Also pls ignore the date, it was the best example I could give.

Thank you

u/Fragrant_Umpire_5113 — 10 days ago