Post partum depression
Relationship with partner has been rocky. Had a baby in 2024, another In December 2025. I work full time from home while caring for the kids.
He works out of town. We both have two kids each outside of our relationship. He's trying to get 50/50 custody of his other two currently.
He goes through depression spells often where being with our kids makes him feel guilty about his other two who aren't in the home. I do understand that and want to support him.... however we still have two children he chose to make as well as our actual relationship. I have been placed on the back burner fully and I'm more of a room mate than anything.
I also had been helping him financially, which at this point I'm requesting to be fully reimbursed because not only is he not helping me financially, but 0% of my needs are being met. I'm burnt out to the core.
We did not celebrate me for Mother's Day despite him being in town. Father's Day is coming up and he mentioned a special some restaurant was having. I flat out said I would not celebrate him for Father's Day since I was not celebrated and I do much more than him.
I would have even let him make up for Mother's Day by saying we would celebrate each other for Father's Day but no he wants to make it about him.
I told him I'm going through post partum x2 due to back to back pregnancies and he said so is he. This has caused so much resentment and caused me to be disrespectful. He wants me to "stay in a woman's place and treat him with respect" but I feel he is in the "woman's place"
Am I better off just leaving? I really love him and tried to understand his point of view but I really am battling post partum and feel I have been robbed of what should have been a beautiful experience in my life this being my last baby.