How would you feel?
I have recently given birth to a beautiful baby girl. She is now 12 weeks old. My husband and I have 2 under 2 now, plus his 2 older daughters who are 8 and 14 years old. My stepdaughters have no family support on their mothers side of the family, my in laws are their only family network. Their mother has epilepsy and never seems to be able to control her seizures for long. Also never does anything about it medically. Since having my Bub, she has had 3 seizures.
My 14yo stepdaughter doesn’t want to live with her mum anymore and has been fighting about having to go spend time with her since a week before I gave birth. My 8yo stepdaughter is scared to be with her mum without her big sister in case something happens.
My husband and I have tried everything to make her understand that she needs to take her medical condition more seriously for her safety and the psychological wellbeing of the kids. We even moved her into a house close to ours last year so that the kids would feel safe knowing we are only a few hundred metres away in an emergency.
with both my 22 month old and my 12 week old I have had PPA and PPD. I have felt constantly overwhelmed since my baby was born because of the volatility of this situation and feeling like I have no control over my life because of this.
As mentioned, my in laws are the only family support for my step kids. However they spend 6 months every year overseas. A few weeks ago I reached out to them to explain how the situation here wasn’t great at the moment and the kids are having a hard time. I told them I was really struggling, how stressed their son is over this, and that I feel like we need their support. They left my message on seen and never responded. Flash forward 3 weeks, and a notification popped up on my phone that they angry reacted my message.
I feel so hurt and angry and I feel like they have shown me how little they care. I am anxious about when they get home how I am going to manage my relationship ship with them when I don’t want to see them at all.
How would you feel?
I need advice.