u/Frequent-Biscotti-94

My 3.5 year old Jindo-mix rescue (Arlo) started to not go out with my dad for walks/pooping/peeing a few months ago without either my brother or myself accompanying him. In the last 1.5 months, Arlo has now decided to do the same thing with my brother. Either my brother and dad have to take out Arlo together or wait for me to come home to take him out by myself or as a family. Prior to this new behaviour, Arlo had no problem going out with my brother or dad separately. Both of them are able to put the harness on Arlo without any problem as Arlo will go to the door and wag his tail as though he’s excited to go out but once they set foot outside our apartment suite door and lock the door Arlo starts to pull back to go in. This has become a bit of a frustrating situation as I work as a nurse and now that Arlo doesn’t seem to want to go out for a pee poop with my brother or dad while I’m at work he ends up holding his pee and poop for 13+ hours. My brother and dad try a couple of times to take him out while I’m at work but both of them are not home at the same time either. Arlo doesn’t seem to be actually holding his pee though as he doesn’t whine or pace to let whoever know at home that he needs to go to relieve himself. I just don’t feel comfortable with the fact that he holds his pee that long. I do walk/take him out before I work around 5:15-6ish AM depending on how long he wants to go. Again, this has never been an issue so Arlo had several times to relief himself throughout the day while I work. I will add that Arlo has on occasion in the last month attempted this odd behaviour in the same capacity that he does with either my dad or brother but I firmly tell him no or go and point in the direction of the elevator and he will listen.

Other than this new “behaviour” Arlo appears to be the same. I mentioned this briefly to the vet a couple weeks ago but she didn’t seem convinced it was a medical issue. However, I may go back for a second opinion as I felt like she could’ve been more thorough with her assessment on Arlo.

I am curious if any other Jindo owners have experienced something similar with their rescues. I know Jindos can be stubborn as hell and very loyal to one person (which would be me in this case) but is this behavioural/phase or medical?

I have a medium to large 3 year old anxious rescue. He’s not a huge fan of strangers but isn’t aggressively reactive. He just doesn’t want to be pet and if he’s not into the person he’ll just walk away. He tends to freeze and stare at people that I guess he feels suspicious of as well as may walk the other direction. If people come up to him really fast he tries to hide behind me.

I’ve been experiencing a few interactions lately with strangers that is making me quite agitated and annoyed, and wondering how others deal with this or if I’m just being overly protective. I’m starting to feel like I might become reactive towards people soon because I guess I’m finding it shocking that people would behave this way. On more than one occasion, I have people whistle and try to get my dog’s attention while we’re walking, which of course will make him stop at times, freeze, and stare. Sometimes I can’t get him to move and I don’t want to pull him because usually that doesn’t even work and I don’t want people think I’m hurting him. I usually try to give the person a look signalling that I don’t like that they’re doing that. I’m sure I should say something but I also don’t want to get into a full blown argument. Another situation has also been happening where parents are letting their 2-3 year old children just run up to my dog thinking he’s going to give off golden retriever energy which is far from the case. For these situations, I do say something like “he’s not friendly” which has been working. I’m just annoyed that some parents would just allow their kids to run up to any dog without asking..

Anyways, looking for people to validate my feelings and experience as well as provide any advice on how I should approach these situations.

Phase/behavioural or more?

Anxious dog