u/Frequent-Dot3410

i am [18F] and my bf is **[20M]**okay so basically i have two bestfriends and i have been dating my bf for the last three years. one of my bestfriends recently started dating a new guy three months ago and brought up the idea of my bf meeting her new bf. he told me he doesnt want to. my bf is 20 and hers is 17 and he has no hate towards my bestfriend or bf but he just doesnt want to meet them. even saying hi is smth he doesnt want cuz he knows that even though we say its just a 5 min hi it will be longer than 5 mins. he thinks that he shouldnt have to put energy into meeting her bf cuz theres no connection. hes just really uptight and doesnt exactly like these interactions but im told him to just meet for the sake of being a decent person and also maintaining the relationship with my two bestfriends cuz thats what actually matters to me. is he wrong or right or what should i do or he do.

i knew it was gonna be hard but i didnt understnad how hard until i got to uni. as an introverted person myself i just dont know how to make friends. orientation week was horrible, all these people were so open to each other could talk so easily to anyone but when it was my turn to talk to people everyone seemed so not interested i tried bringing up topics but it was so horribly hard to keep the conversation going. especially with guys the more i tried to talk or joke around no one was interested everyone just has their group already their group no one wants to step out of the group. even in my accomodation my roomates that i have had only one has been really nice till now but the other two have their friends and i just wish i had a group i always thought i would i would have. when i see everyone else in college all my friends everyone has their group, living the college life and i just feel so stuck and out of plcae and honestly love coming back home, even though i try not to come often but its just peaceful here. its been a year my first year is alredy done and feel so alone and sad cuz every sem i have hopes that this sem will be better than the last but its never that way. i try to talk to people beside, in coffee shops, in different classes but nothing helps cuz yk youll never see them again or youll never see them after this one hour class