Day after asking for divorce emotional rollercoaster
Finally asked my wife for a divorce yesterday and it was the most awful things I've ever had to do. Despite major issues that went unresolved for 4+ years and unsuccessful marriage counseling, she did not see it coming. She begged me not to do it and tried to convince me otherwise but my mind has been made for a long time. She's in denial.
I feel absolutely horrendous for inflicting this on her and also dealing with own sadness, and am at a loss at how to process it all. Keeping a poker face not to show our two kids (3 & 6) and putting in a brave front at work; I don't know how to get through it.
Have good friend support, family and workplace, theoretically stand to lose less (higher earner and birthed the kids) so I don't feel that my sadness is really justified. We still have to live under the same roof for the forseable future due to finances and both wanting to spend as much time as possible with the kids. Any tips to get through this would be highly appreciated!