I’m 26F and getting married soon, and what should be a happy time has been overshadowed by ongoing issues with my 37F sister-in-law.
I’ve asked family and friends not to post photos/videos of me or my wedding events without my permission. Instead of respecting that, she continues doing it. She posts things I specifically wanted kept private, and I strongly feel she does it because she knows it makes me uncomfortable. She also has people on her social media that I do not want having access to my life.
To make it worse, she posts and blocks me (and sometimes family) from seeing what she’s posted, so I can’t even know what’s being shared. She also secretly takes photos of me, which makes me feel constantly on edge.
When I (or others) have tried to address it, she becomes extremely defensive and says I have no right to tell her what she can post if the photos were taken in public. She then flips it around and says no one is allowed to post photos of her, despite the fact that no one even does. She also said I cannot make this request as I don’t wear hijab, which I am not sure how she even related both things together.
This isn’t isolated behavior. Over the years, she’s mocked what I wear, tries to get information about me through other people, and has a pattern of creating drama or tension around important moments in my life. It feels like she wants to provoke me and stay at the center of attention.
At this point, I’m emotionally drained. I don’t want a relationship with her and would rather have no contact, but because she’s family, complete distance isn’t realistic right now. I have deleted all socials as I am sick and tired of her stalking me and constantly talking about my life with others.
How do you handle someone like this, someone who repeatedly crosses boundaries, denies wrongdoing, and seems to enjoy triggering you?
How do I protect my peace when I can’t fully remove them from my life?