u/Fresh-Job6877

I keep seeing on reels on how to date Leo Women and the thing I keep seeing repeated is: in order to date a Leo Woman, you have to be dominant…
Maybe I’m an oddball, but I disagree, I am actually the dominant one 😈 I love a submissive partner
Are there any other Leo women out there that agree? Or disagree??

I (31f) and my husband (32m) have been married for a little under a year, but we’ve been together for about 10 years. We met through mutual friends in college. I specifically met my husband through my ex-best friend (I’ll call him Joe). Joe and I used to be super close. We would hang out almost every day and talk almost every single day. Joe and my husband were really good friends at the time (before my husband and I started dating). Joe then started dating this girl (I’ll call her Mary). Once Joe started dating Mary, Mary and I became really good friends and eventually we became best friends. All was well and we all got along. I didn’t start talking to my husband until years later. So when I would have time, me, Joe, Mary, and some other mutual friends would always hang out. Joe and I also had some classes together and everyone used to tease that Joe had a crush on me and even some family members of mine who met Joe would also tease that Joe was in love with me (I never thought so, especially since he was dating Mary at that time)—and plus, I never saw him that way, it would’ve just been weird and, obviously, I could’ve never done that to Mary (she was obsessed with him). So years later, my husband and I start talking and then eventually start dating, which Joe was absolutely LIVID about! I used to think that joe was upset because I was trying to take his friend away from him? And things just started getting weird between joe and I.
I was so hurt, because I truly cared for Joe—I mean, come on, we were friends for so many years and then all of a sudden, joe completely flips and chooses to treat me like shit and disrespects me in front of our friends. Mary would say nothing because I guess she never wanted to go against her man. So then joe and I started to get into really horrible fights in front of our friends (which would typically be my husband, Mary, Joe and maybe one other person). So needless to say, Joe and I started to drift apart. Then, I started noticing that Joe was treating Mary like shit. He would say the most rudest and un-called for insults and put-downs IN FRONT OF EVERYONE. That obviously pissed me off, because Mary was my best friend, and I’d be damned if someone was gonna talk to my best friend like that IN FRONT OF ME! So , then we started getting really nasty towards each other (Joe and I) until eventually I cut him out of my life. Mary didn’t like that and would instead get mad at me for picking unnecessary fights with Joe. So out of respect for Mary, I decided to not hang out with the friend group if Joe was gonna be around.
Anyway, to make a LONG story short, a couple years after that, my husband and I had broken up for a little while (a couple months or so) and we were starting to see other people and I would tell Mary about my dates. Which I guess she would also tell Joe about them too, which I guess I didn’t care cause his opinion of me is worth shit at this point lol.
Then after a few months, my husband and I decided to get back together (and we haven’t broken up since). I suppose this confused Mary since we had gotten back together, so I started noticing she wasn’t really talking to me as much. I later asked her about it since it was a while since I had talked to her, and she basically said she wanted to leave our friendship in the past. I was like wtf?? Why??
She then explains that the fact that me and my husband got back together was kind of weird to her and Joe started to see me as a slut (which who gives a fuck, right? Lol) And she was confused because since I had previously told her, while I was seeing other people, that I wasn’t planning on getting back with my husband because of some issues I had with him at the time—which is ridiculous because my husband and I never had an on-and-off-again type of relationship, we only broke up once throughout our relationship—which I bring that up because Mary and Joe were constantly breaking up and getting back together every other month, and I would NEVER judge her or criticize the relationship between her and Joe—so for her to criticize me, was ridiculous-to say the least) and she also brought up that since I am not friends with Joe anymore, its very awkward for Joe to be comfortable around me, so she thought it best that she would just cut ties with me (since I guess I’m apparently the problem?) and that literally broke my heart…
So present day, my husband still talks to Mary and Joe and I’ve expressed to him that I don’t like the fact that he still talks to them. He says he barely talks to them and really only talks to them if they message him (but between you and me, I’ve seen the messages and they go back and forth almost everyday) I don’t know if that’s wrong of me, but they really hurt me and kinda skewed my views of friendships with people (it’s very hard for me to open up to people and I don’t have any friends anymore because I just don’t trust anyone anymore due to this experience) so Reddit, what are your thoughts on the situation? Is it wrong of me to want my husband to also cut ties with Mary and Joe?