I, (19F) am a sophomore in college, me and friends were planning to move off campus this summer. my friend K (20F) found a house super close to campus. we all really liked the space and decided to go for it. the rent was steep, but I come from a relatively wealthy family. my parents pay my tuition and my housing-like most of my friends. my two current roommates N (19M) and K got confirmation from their parents it would be okay early on.
I’m from a very strict religious household, and wasn’t sure i was gonna be allowed to go off campus with them. I put off telling them, and asked a few days before we signed the lease. My mother was completely against it, and convinced my father not to pay.
I still really wanted to live with my friends, and I thought they would come around to it if i pressed them enough. i told my friends i was gonna sign but wouldn’t be able to pay right this second because we were moving money around. they were cool with it, and the rest of them paid while i mentioned it to the landlord. I singed the lease anyway- there is a clause in the lease that if one person can’t pay, everyone else becomes responsible for their amount. K’s mom was really worried about it at first, saying that someone might pull out but K managed to convince her saying that she trusted all of us, and i felt a little bad for not telling her but I thought that i could convince my dad, so I assured her everything was alright. I ended up calling him and he was weird about it, and asked if it was safe enough because it was off campus.
N and K knew about that part, and that my dad was being strange about it- but they still thought that he agreed just on the condition we could prove the place was safe. the landlord gave me 15 days to pay. i tried to convince my dad to pay, i even sent him the landlords number. i was talking to my siblings too, and they were trying to convince him as well. unfortunately by the time the fifteenth came my dad was only lukewarm to the idea.
K was asking me all the time how it was going and how much longer it was going to take. i really didn’t want to tell her that my family wasn’t agreeing yet, so i told her that i had worked it out and that things were getting paid, but that it was gonna take until the end of the month, and that the landlord was cool with that. for a couple weeks i continued to ask my dad, and he continued to say no and not respond to me. it’s the 28th and he is still saying no. i managed to convince my mom, but i finally told my friends and K went absolutely ballistic! she got so angry with me, asking me why I didn’t tell her or anyone else, i completely shut down because of my anxiety and she called her friend W(19NB) who came over to diffuse the situation. K left and W asked me what happened and I told them the truth too. K and W left and haven’t spoken to me, other than to text me to get a job, find a new roommate to replace me, or to get a loan, N too.
Am I the asshole?
u/Fresh_Impact_2066
I, (19F) am a sophomore in college, me and friends were planning to move off campus this summer. my friend K (20F) found a house super close to campus. we all really liked the space and decided to go for it. the rent was steep, but I come from a relatively wealthy family. my parents pay my tuition and my housing-like most of my friends. my two current roommates N (19M) and K got confirmation from their parents it would be okay early on.
I’m from a very strict religious household, and wasn’t sure i was gonna be allowed to go off campus with them. I put off telling them, and asked a few days before we signed the lease. My mother was completely against it, and convinced my father not to pay.
I still really wanted to live with my friends, and I thought they would come around to it if i pressed them enough. i told my friends i was gonna sign but wouldn’t be able to pay right this second because we were moving money around. they were cool with it, and the rest of them paid while i mentioned it to the landlord. I singed the lease anyway- there is a clause in the lease that if one person can’t pay, everyone else becomes responsible for their amount. K’s mom was really worried about it at first, saying that someone might pull out but K managed to convince her saying that she trusted all of us, and i felt a little bad for not telling her but I thought that i could convince my dad, so I assured her everything was alright. I ended up calling him and he was weird about it, and asked if it was safe enough because it was off campus.
N and K knew about that part, and that my dad was being strange about it- but they still thought that he agreed just on the condition we could prove the place was safe. the landlord gave me 15 days to pay. i tried to convince my dad to pay, i even sent him the landlords number. i was talking to my siblings too, and they were trying to convince him as well. unfortunately by the time the fifteenth came my dad was only lukewarm to the idea.
K was asking me all the time how it was going and how much longer it was going to take. i really didn’t want to tell her that my family wasn’t agreeing yet, so i told her that i had worked it out and that things were getting paid, but that it was gonna take until the end of the month, and that the landlord was cool with that. for a couple weeks i continued to ask my dad, and he continued to say no and not respond to me. it’s the 28th and he is still saying no. i managed to convince my mom, but i finally told my friends and K went absolutely ballistic! she got so angry with me, asking me why I didn’t tell her or anyone else, i completely shut down because of my anxiety and she called her friend W(19NB) who came over to diffuse the situation. K left and W asked me what happened and I told them the truth too. K and W left and haven’t spoken to me, other than to text me to get a job, find a new roommate to replace me, or to get a loan, N too.
Am I the asshole?