AITA for trying to isolate my family (specifically my mother) from my life
I (18F) have for as long as I can remember, been emotionally distant with my family. Growing up my mom was always working night shifts then slept in the day and with my dad, vice versa.
I am by nature quite calm and an introvert and as a kid like I never experienced any pressure to excel or lead by example, so imagine my surprise when the youngest was born all of a sudden I’m also a parent. This part I didn’t mind but all of a sudden my mom kinda flipped a switch.
**\*\*important to note I have never received anything from my parents beyond financial support\*\***
My mother started shouting a lot and degrading my efforts, I always had top grades despite this never being a requirement, participated in tons of clubs, helped out the best I could across the board despite my lack of socials skills and ever increasing social anxiety.
This didn’t matter to my mother since she couldn’t understand how I could win so many awards and yet show her what she called a ‘disgusting attitude’. She always would calm me unemployable and that I’d be fired straight away if I brought the attitude that I’d displayed to her into the workplace and yet I went on to do 2 internships and one of which actually landed me the job. Still she couldn’t understand how I was so called living a ‘double life’ and keeping up the facade that I wasn’t the grumpy, depressing, incompetent daughter she ‘raised’.
The other day she lectured me once again, but this time I couldn’t see how she could be right but then I thought I may be overreacting and that I’m actually a horrible person.
**Context:** She changed occupations after the youngest was born so her work is now remote, I am good with tech so I’d always do the odd job and help out.
I finished college early so I have more time at home these days, she asked for help and so I completed the tasks.
That’s when she started on me. I don’t usually give detailed responses when it comes to her as she loses interest quite fast so naturally I make it quick. This time she turned this into a whole speech on how I have no people skills and can’t act like this when my manager wants information. I have so many peers, teachers that can vouch and say how good I am when it comes to these kinds of things, it’s never been brought up if I’m incompetent since I’m always complimented *for* my competency.
We once had a family talk that was set up by my mom to discuss what could improve our family life… I never tell my parents how I feel especially my mum since on more than one occasion she uses it against me. This time was no different and I wish I’d learnt my lesson. I expressed how I neither love them nor hate them, how they have never been there for me emotionally and such and this was a big step for me.. ofc my mother flipped the script and told me how we were given the basics but to me that wasn’t enough but I never expected it because I didn’t realise I was lacking. I personally have never wanted that emotional support.
So when the next conversation happened I totally lost my cool and shouted at her and said everything I wanted to say but she lowkey disregarded my feelings and so I moved out and left her and the rest of them behind, I feel bad for my siblings but they weren’t treat anywhere close to how I was treated
anyway am I crazy/did I overreact ?