u/FriendlyMention2158

A while ago I was talking to a guy and we genuinely clicked really well. Same humour, easy conversations, good chemistry in person, etc. Whenever we were together, things felt really natural and fun and I honestly loved talking to him.

Eventually he told me that he actually liked me and really enjoyed seeing/talking to me, but because of bad timing (we’ll both be in different continents for the entire summer with an 8-hour time difference), he said he couldn’t give me the proper relationship I deserve and didn’t want to lead me on.

I completely understood what he meant because I had been worrying about the exact same thing. We would’ve only been together for around a month before having to do long distance for 3 months, and I know that realistically would’ve been hard.

The reason I ended things wasn’t because I stopped liking him — it was because I didn’t want to put myself in another situationship. I’d rather walk away than stay in something undefined where I’d eventually get hurt wondering what we actually are.

It’s now been around 4 weeks since we last spoke, and I really miss him sometimes. Not even in a dramatic way — I mostly miss the conversations, the humour, and just how easy things felt in person. He’s honestly one of the only guys I’ve fully been myself around.

Now it’s awkward whenever we walk past each other and we basically don’t acknowledge each other at all.

I’ve been thinking about sending him a message like:
“Hey, it’s been a while, wanna catch up?”

Not to immediately restart anything, but because I genuinely miss talking to him and I do think we had a really good connection. There’s also a tennis tournament coming up after half term where you have to enter in boy-girl pairs, and part of me thinks it could actually be fun to do together.

I also can’t lie — I do think we might’ve had potential in the future if the timing was better.

Part of me feels like I made the mature decision because we clearly wanted different things at the time. But another part of me keeps wondering if I walked away too quickly from someone I genuinely connected with.

Would reconnecting casually be a bad idea?

A while ago I was talking to a guy and we genuinely clicked really well. Same humour, easy conversations, good chemistry in person, etc. Whenever we were together, things felt really natural and fun and I honestly loved talking to him.

Eventually he told me that he actually liked me and really enjoyed seeing/talking to me, but because of bad timing (we’ll both be in different continents for the entire summer with an 8-hour time difference), he said he couldn’t give me the proper relationship I deserve and didn’t want to lead me on.

I completely understood what he meant because I had been worrying about the exact same thing. We would’ve only been together for around a month before having to do long distance for 3 months, and I know that realistically would’ve been hard.

The reason I ended things wasn’t because I stopped liking him — it was because I didn’t want to put myself in another situationship. I’d rather walk away than stay in something undefined where I’d eventually get hurt wondering what we actually are.

It’s now been around 4 weeks since we last spoke, and I really miss him sometimes. Not even in a dramatic way — I mostly miss the conversations, the humour, and just how easy things felt in person. He’s honestly one of the only guys I’ve fully been myself around.

Now it’s awkward whenever we walk past each other and we basically don’t acknowledge each other at all.

I’ve been thinking about sending him a message like:
“Hey, it’s been a while, wanna catch up?”

Not to immediately restart anything, but because I genuinely miss talking to him and I do think we had a really good connection. There’s also a tennis tournament coming up after half term where you have to enter in boy-girl pairs, and part of me thinks it could actually be fun to do together.

I also can’t lie — I do think we might’ve had potential in the future if the timing was better.

Part of me feels like I made the mature decision because we clearly wanted different things at the time. But another part of me keeps wondering if I walked away too quickly from someone I genuinely connected with.

Would reconnecting casually be a bad idea?