u/Friendly_Egg_

I know my sample size is exceptionally small, but with people i've worked with and my outside friend circle. People over 35 seem to complain about finances and expenses more even those that are single. While those under seem to have money to buy homes, travel regularly, own 2-3 dogs, multiple vehicles.

Like 2 people i know. Ones 28 he owns a house, has two dogs, 2 cars, motorcycles, he travels 4-5 times a year road trips in between, he is a trade worker so his income must be good however we live in a very expensive city 1br apartments start around 600k. Another she's 31 same situation as him, she never even went to college/uni, she just worked out of highschool and through connections she got a well paying job so understandable she never spent a cent on schooling and was just able to save since highschool. Her brother same thing, he worked for their dad and then just moved up in the company and then switched to a bigger firm, he only did a diploma in marketing for 2 years and he's now handling million dollar accounts for clients.

2 others are a couple but they have joint income so it's understandable.

My ex roommate even bought an apartment though far from the city, he can still comfortably afford the mortgage while still spending a LOT on luxury stuff. But he is also a trade worker. My brother in law is in the same field but he has no chance at being approved for a big enough mortgage to own.

Is this normal or just the people i've been encountering. I know the first four people had generational wealth to a degree. And most didn't waste money on post education apart from those in the trades.

Not sure how to tag this maybe vent, might be a long post.

Am 38. We dated around 4 years, and it's been almost 7 years since we broke up. I've stayed single since due to personal health and financial reasons, i'm not in a good state to put someone in my life at least that's my mind set.

The first 2-3 years after we broke up (somewhat mutually) she was completely out of my mind and i focused on my things. But since I haven't been able to stop thinking about her and whish i had done better.

After those years there was a lot of stress and trauma i had to deal with, such as my business financially struggling post covid, I haven't been taking much income last 2 years, nearly lost both my parents they were in the icu after an incident, cost of living is crazy where i live am barely saving money. And last year even I had a heart attack at 37, luckily i was healthy not to have any severe disabilities from it.

• Initially in the relationship she was extremely supportive of my and endeavors I wanted to do. I started my business becasue of her and my parents, In hopes/potential that I will have something to support us or them.
• She is gorgeous, and a multisport athlete with an incredible physique.
• She is an adrenaline junkie and a biker (I'm the total opposite and don't bike)
• Hard working, she would sometimes even help me with my business after finishing her job.
• the list goes on

In hind sight, i know i could have done some things better and I was stupid and don't know if certain things made her cold and pushed her away. We never had a fight anytime together she wasn't good at communicating things. I did my best to support her too, she was studying for some certification stuff at the time and I'd do my best to always pick her up from the institution and anytime we went out anywhere i'd pay.

And I feel this was one factor to cause my heart attack (SCAD) on top of the other trauma and stress i had.

My few friends and family want me to date again, cause i've gotten reclusive over time. But I don't see myself in a financial or mental state to make someone else happy, nor want to deal with more stress of not finding a woman equal or better than my ex (like if i got someone crazy). But maybe in hindsight my ex wasn't so great, idk.

I do know though that her lack of communication really bothered me over the years, she never got mad but she never told me if something was wrong or if i did something wrong, I always had to figure it out. she'd just go quiet. And financially it became a burden too cause i knew she had a lot of money, but I'd pay for us both everywhere we went I didn't mind initially but years in it took it's toll on me.