u/FrogzandBogz

Hi! I don't know if this is the right place but I don't know where to go so here we go.

I 20f am in a budding relationship with a man 20m for over a month. I've only ever been in one relationship in the past which was only about fourth months and not the most healthy on his end.

For some context I have not always been the most social never had many friends, crushes, or many close relationships so I sometimes struggle with regulating them healthily. Often times I feel i am giving 100 while the other gives maybe 50 and this often leads to feeling low as Im sure many can relate. And that is where the conflict rises.

The guy I've been dating is quite the opposite he's sweet caring and gives a lot emotionally and even giving gifts and such as a big love language for me is gift giving/acts of service. Something I often use as I struggle communicating how I feel. In a way this relationship has brought things to life such as the fact that I don't think I've ever really been in a super healthy relationship in any capacity. I feel almost overwhelmed by the support and affection despite it being to what most consider normal. In return I've also realized for the first time in my life the roles seem to have switched. I don't know how to respond to compliments and affection ofter deflecting or any number of things and I struggle to do the same in turn. I don't know why I don't it feels it should be so easy to respond to but It's just something i've always hidden away from. It's cause a sense of confusion in a way feeling as if something is wrong with me. But also an urge to be better.

I care deeply for this man and I do not want to make him feel that way of giving more then given but I just don't know how and I don't know why it's so hard for me to do something so simple. I want to be better I don't want to be the reason this stops because I can't figure out how to respond to nice things. Please any help is appreciated I am lost and confused.

tl;dr I'm in a healthy relationship and have realized I don't know how to be in one.

Hi! I'm not sure if this is fully the right place but just needed some advice. I am 20f and I'm in a budding relationship with a man 20m who is in the national guard. I will be honest and say I have very little real knowledge of the military in any capacity as it's just never been something i've been around. I just want to know ways to support and such while he is off I was thinking of some gifts to take with him? What would be things that would be appreciated /allowed? Sorry if this is a bit vague this is kinda my starting off point in trying to learn. I want to be able to support him the best I can even if I don't quite get it all. Thank you!