My wife (23F) suddenly talked after 5 years (23M) Ex and I (25M) don't know how to feel about it
My wife and her ex were together from 2019 to 2021. My wife and I got together in 2021, and we got married in 2024. We are still married plus child Recently she said want close the chapter with Ex to apolgise thats it. What's been bothering me is that this guy was my wife's first love, and they were each other's first. That alone makes me uncomfortable. Now they are talking a lot, and she says it isn't weird that they just became friends because my wife just needed to say sorry to him and feelt bad over the years what she talked so bad about him I also found out she helped him get into a school. She says he is the only reference she can use because he became a better person after they broke up. I accidentally opened her Facebook account. I use Edge for mine and Chrome for hers, and she has the same access to mine. We have always had open access to each other's accounts. But what I saw bothered me: she was venting to him about me as a husband, talking about things I can't do or am slow to learn. It also bothers me that she told him things like "He made me a better version of myself" and "I became more confident and comfortable with myself because of you." With me, she feels like I am limiting her and not helping her grow. She doesn't have any friends, same with me, but she does acknowledge that I am getting better as a person. Is it okay to feel this way? I don't want to be a controlling partner.....
about me When my wife cries, I don't know how to comfort her. Growing up, my parents would argue, walk away, come back, and act like nothing happened. I never saw them apologize or talk things through, so I never learned how to do that either. I also grew up without friends, so I am very close to my parents. I struggle to talk about feelings. I don't know how to cook or manage the household well. I am unsure of myself, but I genuinely want to be better. I want to communicate better with my wife. I want to be a real partner to her. TL;DR: My wife just got in contact with her ex recently couple days ago, who was her first love. I accidentally saw her venting to him about me as a husband. I feel hurt and insecure but I don't want to be controlling. I know I have things to work on and I genuinely want to improve for her.