u/Fsmandhor

I'm in late 20s and still a virgin.

When I was younger I was very religious. I thought porn was a sin, masturbation is a sin, and even having sexual thoughts felt wrong sometimes. So I avoided all of it. I never watched porn(now I do intentionally to make it normalised for myself), never dated much, never really learned how to talk to girls in that way. I thought I was doing the right thing.

Now I'm almost 30 and I feel very behind. Most people my age have had relationships, sex, breakups, and all kinds of life experience. I have none of that. Sometimes it feels like everyone learned something important and I missed the class. I don't even believe the same things anymore, but I can't get those years back. Dating feels hard because I have zero experience and most women my age probably don't want to deal with a guy who is starting from scratch.

I know nobody owes me anything. I just feel sad sometimes thinking about all the years I spent being scared of normal things. Anyone else end up like this because of religion, anxiety, or something else? Did things ever get better?

Sorry if this sounds depressing. Just wanted to get it off my chest.

I'm in late 20s and still a virgin.

When I was younger I was very religious. I thought porn was a sin, masturbation is a sin, and even having sexual thoughts felt wrong sometimes. So I avoided all of it. I never watched porn(now I do intentionally to make it normalised for myself), never dated much, never really learned how to talk to girls in that way. I thought I was doing the right thing.

Now I'm almost 30 and I feel very behind. Most people my age have had relationships, sex, breakups, and all kinds of life experience. I have none of that. Sometimes it feels like everyone learned something important and I missed the class. I don't even believe the same things anymore, but I can't get those years back. Dating feels hard because I have zero experience and most women my age probably don't want to deal with a guy who is starting from scratch.

I know nobody owes me anything. I just feel sad sometimes thinking about all the years I spent being scared of normal things. Anyone else end up like this because of religion, anxiety, or something else? Did things ever get better?

Sorry if this sounds depressing. Just wanted to get it off my chest.

Lonely and touch starved and bad that I am still a virgin for whatever reasons. I also feel jealous of young people experiencing love life and sex. I am 27 and not happy about me having no experiences like that.
😞😞

Lonely and touch starved and bad that I am still a virgin for whatever reasons. I also feel jealous of young people experiencing love life and sex. I am 27 and not happy about me having no experiences like that.
😞😞

I am 27 (28 soon) and didn’t even have a kiss. I was asked out when I was a teen, but I was too shy to even express myself. Even if I had gone into a relationship, I could never have dared to ask for a kiss or think about or do anything sexual. Sexual anything just used to make me feel uncomfortable even though I am a guy.

I don’t want to go into what could have happened or not in the past, but I am sure I could have lived my life like others. Experiencing the love and feel good dopamine you get while you kiss someone, first teenage kiss, first romance, first love, first everything. I missed it all. I really missed it all out. I feel so sorry for myself because people keep on trying to find a chance but I on the other hand let them go.

My therapist said, I need to come to acceptance of it and suggested some ways to do it. I am able to feel okay for some days, repeating some affirmations and doing tasks and exercises they said, but this grief keeps on coming back.

I can't stand couples, especially teenagers. I am grieving about my teens and 20s and ending up so lonely and inexperienced. I am grieving a lot that I can’t explain in just words.

I am 27 (28 soon) and didn’t even have a kiss. I was asked out when I was a teen, but I was too shy to even express myself. Even if I had gone into a relationship, I could never have dared to ask for a kiss or think about or do anything sexual. Sexual anything just used to make me feel uncomfortable even though I am a guy.

I don’t want to go into what could have happened or not in the past, but I am sure I could have lived my life like others. Experiencing the love and feel good dopamine you get while you kiss someone, first teenage kiss, first romance, first love, first everything. I missed it all. I really missed it all out. I feel so sorry for myself because people keep on trying to find a chance but I on the other hand let them go.

My therapist said, I need to come to acceptance of it and suggested some ways to do it. I am able to feel okay for some days, repeating some affirmations and doing tasks and exercises they said, but this grief keeps on coming back.

I can't stand couples, especially teenagers. I am grieving about my teens and 20s and ending up so lonely and inexperienced. I am grieving a lot that I can’t explain in just words.

I am 27 and still a virgin and yet at times I feel bad for wanting sex.

I don’t know what are my issues exactly but I am stuck between regretting not experiencing sex in my younger days and feeling guilty for wanting it.

Ps- to the mods- Why do you always remove my post? How much more karma do I need

I am 27 and haven’t had sex, not even experiencing oral sex.

So, if I get very lucky soon, I will be getting something at age 27 that most people get at ages 16–17 or at most 20.

I am 10 years late and the wait all these years was basically suffering for me. I don’t even know if it will give me pleasure anymore.

So it is making me go spiraling and I don’t know how to make peace with it.

Any suggestions or advice that can help me?

I am 27 and haven’t had sex, not even experiencing oral sex.

So, if I get very lucky soon, I will be getting something at age 27 that most people get at ages 16–17 or at most 20.

I am 10 years late and the wait all these years was basically suffering for me. I don’t even know if it will give me pleasure anymore.

So it is making me go spiraling and I don’t know how to make peace with it.

Any suggestions or advice that can help me?

I am so horny rn!