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My father [55M] has been having an affair with my best friend’s mother [46F] for almost 10 years. Me and my sister are in our early twenties, my mother is [48F] and my best friend is of my age .Over the years, my sister and I slowly uncovered the truth, but every time we tried to confront my father, he denied everything, played the victim, and manipulated the situation until we ended up doubting ourselves.

What makes this even more painful is that my father treats my best friend and her younger sister like his own children. He is always there for them, supports them financially and emotionally, and behaves as though he has another family alongside ours. Meanwhile, he still acts loving and caring toward my mother, which leaves me constantly confused about his true intentions.

The affair eventually destroyed my best friend’s parents’ marriage after her father found out and confronted her mother. They separated because of it. My best friend seems to know that something is going on she stopped talking with me I don't know why. Sometimes I carry guilt over the situation because she is my best friend, even though logically I know none of this was my fault.

My sister and I are currently the only ones who fully know about the affair. We have hidden it from our mother because we are terrified of devastating her.

What makes everything more confusing is that my father still behaves lovingly toward my mother at times, as if nothing is wrong. But after 10 years, this no longer feels like just a physical relationship it feels emotional, deeply rooted, and impossible to end.

My father is extremely manipulative and always uses sympathy to escape accountability, which is why my sister and I feel the only way to finally confront him is to catch him red-handed with undeniable proof. The hardest part is that despite everything, I still don’t want to lose him as my father. I feel trapped between anger, betrayal, guilt, and love, and I honestly don’t know how anyone is supposed to deal with something like this.

I think the situation may become even more serious in the future, and I feel scared and emotionally exhausted carrying this for so long.

I’m mainly looking for advice from people who have experienced parental infidelity or family betrayal. How did you emotionally cope with it? How did it affect your relationship with your parents and with yourself? Any advice or shared experiences would really help because I feel very alone in this situation.

How to catch him red handedly?

My father[55M] has been having an affair with my best friend’s mother [46F] for almost 10 years. Me and my sister are in our early twenties, my mother is [48F] and my best friend is of my age .Over the years, my sister and I slowly uncovered the truth, but every time we tried to confront my father, he denied everything, played the victim, and manipulated the situation until we ended up doubting ourselves.

What makes this even more painful is that my father treats my best friend and her younger sister like his own children. He is always there for them, supports them financially and emotionally, and behaves as though he has another family alongside ours. Meanwhile, he still acts loving and caring toward my mother, which leaves me constantly confused about his true intentions.

The affair eventually destroyed my best friend’s parents’ marriage after her father found out and confronted her mother. They separated because of it. My best friend seems to know that something is going on she stopped talking with me I don't know why. Sometimes I carry guilt over the situation because she is my best friend, even though logically I know none of this was my fault.

My sister and I are currently the only ones who fully know about the affair. We have hidden it from our mother because we are terrified of devastating her.

What makes everything more confusing is that my father still behaves lovingly toward my mother at times, as if nothing is wrong. But after 10 years, this no longer feels like just a physical relationship it feels emotional, deeply rooted, and impossible to end.

My father is extremely manipulative and always uses sympathy to escape accountability, which is why my sister and I feel the only way to finally confront him is to catch him red-handed with undeniable proof. The hardest part is that despite everything, I still don’t want to lose him as my father. I feel trapped between anger, betrayal, guilt, and love, and I honestly don’t know how anyone is supposed to deal with something like this.

I think the situation may become even more serious in the future, and I feel scared and emotionally exhausted carrying this for so long.

I’m mainly looking for advice from people who have experienced parental infidelity or family betrayal. How did you emotionally cope with it? How did it affect your relationship with your parents and with yourself? Any advice or shared experiences would really help because I feel very alone in this situation.

How to catch him red handedly?

My father\[55M\] has been having an affair with my best friend’s mother \[46F\] for almost 10 years. Me and my sister are in our early teens, my mother is \[48F\] and my best friend is of my age .Over the years, my sister and I slowly uncovered the truth, but every time we tried to confront my father, he denied everything, played the victim, and manipulated the situation until we ended up doubting ourselves.

What makes this even more painful is that my father treats my best friend and her younger sister like his own children. He is always there for them, supports them financially and emotionally, and behaves as though he has another family alongside ours. Meanwhile, he still acts loving and caring toward my mother, which leaves me constantly confused about his true intentions.

The affair eventually destroyed my best friend’s parents’ marriage after her father found out and confronted her mother. They separated because of it. My best friend seems to know that something is going on she stopped talking with me I don't know why. Sometimes I carry guilt over the situation because she is my best friend, even though logically I know none of this was my fault.

My sister and I are currently the only ones who fully know about the affair. We have hidden it from our mother because we are terrified of devastating her.

What makes everything more confusing is that my father still behaves lovingly toward my mother at times, as if nothing is wrong. But after 10 years, this no longer feels like just a physical relationship it feels emotional, deeply rooted, and impossible to end.

My father is extremely manipulative and always uses sympathy to escape accountability, which is why my sister and I feel the only way to finally confront him is to catch him red-handed with undeniable proof. The hardest part is that despite everything, I still don’t want to lose him as my father. I feel trapped between anger, betrayal, guilt, and love, and I honestly don’t know how anyone is supposed to deal with something like this.

I think the situation may become even more serious in the future, and I feel scared and emotionally exhausted carrying this for so long.

I’m mainly looking for advice from people who have experienced parental infidelity or family betrayal. How did you emotionally cope with it? How did it affect your relationship with your parents and with yourself? Any advice or shared experiences would really help because I feel very alone in this situation.

How to catch him red handedly?