u/Fuckmychunguslife999

I come to new country when i was 15 and i am 19 now.

english is my second language so i might make alot of mistakes.

i want to move-out but i cant seem to find a job and thing are tense in the house.

Every week i get yell at for things that dont even make sense like saying the house smells and passive aggressively cleaning the house and saying if you dont want to clean dont clean even though i cleaned the house and it didn’t smell.

I also get told how they suffered and still suffering for bringing us to another country.

I don think i will have excepted to come here if i knew this is how things will turn out.

I get blamed for everything thats wrong with the house and if i say i didn't do it, I get yelled at more for “lying“.

one thing that makes everything worse is i cry when i am frustrated and i get frustrated alot because i cant defend myself and crying equals more yelling and being told i am arrogant and I am giving you advice why are you crying?? even though i am being told how my other paren was horrible and what they did and how they ruined me.

I want to move out but i cant find a job and I do not have anything lined up for me.

When i was like 16 I was told i couldn’t work but as i turned 18 asking money became a way to get yelled at and acting like i wanted their money and ”why cant get a job”

the job market is horrible and i want to go to uni but this year was horrible i was hopping to get a job and stay out of the house as much as i can while saving as much as i can, but i dont think i can do that. I am expected to do everything in the house and my brother doing the dishes is like me turning the house upside down and when i didn’t back down because i do everything else their favourite quote became “everyone i this house is for them self and asking why my brother is not cooking for himself passive aggressively knowing their is food I cooked just to start an argument. Its like seeing me happy makes them angry and they like control and probably use me as way to truama dump when they had a bad day.

One of my biggest problem is I was programmed to not think about moving out like abandoning a parent but every time they say ”if you dont like my rules you can move out knowing i dont have work or money.

I come to new country when i was 15 and i am 19 now.

english is my second language so i might make alot of mistakes.

i want to move-out but i cant seem to find a job and thing are tense in the house.

Every week i get yell at for things that dont even make sense like saying the house smells and passive aggressively cleaning the house and saying if you dont want to clean dont clean even though i cleaned the house and it didn’t smell.

I also get told how they suffered and still suffering for bringing us to another country.

I don think i will have excepted to come here if i knew this is how things will turn out.

I get blamed for everything thats wrong with the house and if i say i didn't do it, I get yelled at more for “lying“.

one thing that makes everything worse is i cry when i am frustrated and i get frustrated alot because i cant defend myself and crying equals more yelling and being told i am arrogant and I am giving you advice why are you crying?? even though i am being told how my other paren was horrible and what they did and how they ruined me.

I want to move out but i cant find a job and I do not have anything lined up for me.

When i was like 16 I was told i couldn’t work but as i turned 18 asking money became a way to get yelled at and acting like i wanted their money and ”why cant get a job”

the job market is horrible and i want to go to uni but this year was horrible i was hopping to get a job and stay out of the house as much as i can while saving as much as i can, but i dont think i can do that. I am expected to do everything in the house and my brother doing the dishes is like me turning the house upside down and when i didn’t back down because i do everything else their favourite quote became “everyone i this house is for them self and asking why my brother is not cooking for himself passive aggressively knowing their is food I cooked just to start an argument. Its like seeing me happy makes them angry and they like control and probably use me as way to truama dump when they had a bad day.

One of my biggest problem is I was programmed to not think about moving out like abandoning a parent but every time they say ”if you dont like my rules you can move out knowing i dont have work or money.

I am 19 and will soon be turning 20. I came to a new country when I was 15, almost 16.

English is my second language, so please forgive me if I make mistakes 😂😂

A parent brought me here, but I can’t live peacefully at home. I get accused every day of things that don’t make sense, like not doing chores properly even when I have done them.

It feels like I am their emotional dumping ground.

I cry easily, which really frustrates me, and I hate it. They seem to like having power and control, and they get offended whenever I cry.

I don’t have a job right now and I’ve been struggling to find one. They know this, but they are still very harsh towards me. They don’t treat my half-sibling the same way. My other siblings, who share both parents with me, have already moved out, and it feels like I am the one they take everything out on now.

I hate that I can’t change the situation, and I feel guilty even thinking about moving out, even though it’s something I really want.