I regret moving into a house with my roommates
A few years ago I was looking to move across the country for a great opportunity career wise. Unfortunately the area it was located was sorta remote and had very little housing available at the time. My goal was to move by myself, but I ended up having to move into a house with a couple I had met online. There were red flags from our first talks, but I tried to ignore it and give them the benefit of the doubt. Plus it was a month before I had to move, so I just really needed a place asap. So I chose to sublet from them which has been one of the worst mistakes of my life.
From the beginning they were very controlling and passive aggressive towards me. I tried to invite them to things after a week of living together to get to know each other and they’d completely leave me on read. They refused to even just acknowledge me even if I’m in the same space as them and have treated my guests with the same regard. The one roommate was also very distrustful of me and paranoid that I was somehow going to fuck him over in terms of paying shared bills (despite the fact I made the most out of everyone in the house lol), which resulted in him trying to demand me to pay rent 1-2 weeks early. When I didn’t comply with his ridiculous requests they switched to constantly nit picking me and how I utilized the space and ect. They would leave me notes around the house to find about whatever issue it was they had with me. Which is also ridiculous bc I did most of the cleaning while he hasn’t cleaned one thing since moving in.
After the first year I was seriously considering taking the gamble of moving out. It would’ve been a hassle but looking back it would’ve been definitely worth it. I didn’t even get much of a chance to seriously consider it before the lease resigning was sprung on me one day after coming home from work. I was told the landlord would be coming for a walkthrough just to see how things were going, but I wasn’t informed I was going to signing legal documents that day. I told my roommates I wasn’t aware they were going to have us resign already and they just kinda looked at each other and walked away. I’m sure they knew.
I can’t even begin to get into their relationship in itself because that could be a whole other post, but all I’ll say is there was a notable age gap, cheating, constant drug use involved.
I’ve tried to be civil and just ignore them most of the time, but recently I was pushed to my breaking point. I asked them if they could clean a kitchen appliance because they kept leaving me notes about how it stunk and were probably just expecting me to clean it like I have for the past couple years. Their response to me was that basically they shouldn’t be expected to clean it because they are busy and don’t use it as much as me (not true!).
Well I completely lost it. I blew up on them over text since that’s where we were having the convo, outlining practically every single thing I’ve done in terms of chores and buying necessities for the house that they just refused to do. I completely threw it in their faces and bordered on cussing them out, which isn’t the type of person I try to be. Since then they’ve been still nitpicking me over text and telling me that they need a move out date from me, but I have just completely ignored them after that. I am moving out in a couple weeks and have bigger fish to fry.
Learn from me. Don’t ignore the red flags when it comes to living situations. They often don’t go away, and if anything gets worse. I regret moving in here, I regret staying the other year, and I regret blowing up on them the way I did.