u/Fun-Ice1747

Who is part of this fun club. Where you'd get woken up at 3 am for fights or screaming or wailing? It took me 6 months of being broken up before my nighttime system was regulated enough to sleep through the night again. And make no mistakes, it's done on purpose. A normal caring partner will take care not to wake you up while you're sleeping. BPD will wake you up so they don't have to be alone in the void.

Getting my sleep back was worth all the pain of the break up and everything. Walking around like a zombie and then expecting you to be your best self is so unfair and gross and frankly abusive.

My ex actually had the gall to write that online. The view of herself as a people pleaser is so unbalanced. I never saw any people pleasing activity from her in the 3 years we were together. I mean she was super friendly to strange men, if that counts, but everything in her life was about herself. Her small problems would outweigh my large ones. She expected instant emotional maintenance for every little thing. She woke me up in the middle of the night wailing. I never got good sleep, she threatened to hit me, she locked me out of my own home. And her moral takeaway is that she was a people pleaser and needs to be a worse person and MORE selfish???

For someone who endlessly prattles on about healing, her path to healing is always just to be worse and worse. I used to think I had gotten the best and most healed version of her because that's what she told me, but actually I think everyone gets a worse version of her every time.

She definitely wasn't people pleasing to me.

So it's been just over a year since I was out of my relationship. It was a typical story that you hear on this forum. Maybe better than some, worse than some others. Massive cycle of ups and downs. A year on and I'm still recovering, but doing so much better.

I was with my ex for 2 and a half years. About a year into the relationship, maybe a little less I started to get migraines. I had never had them before that relationship. They were horrible, blinded by the light, only capable of lying in bed all day. Barely functional. At least one of them caused me to vomit. They became a regular part of my life, by the end of the relationship I got one every week.

Finally her behavior got to be too much. She wiped me from her social media before going binge partying. Told me if she took drugs and fucked someone it wouldn't be cheating, and I'd have to emotionally support her through that behavior. Constantly called me up to tell me about all the dudes hitting on her. I found out she was on dating apps and telling people she was single. Same time period, I took her out of my profile picture on my Facebook and she screamed at me over it. 'Women might think you're single!!'

We went no contact. After 6 weeks of no contact I noticed, 'where are my migraines????'

They had vanished completely. Now I've had other stressful times in my life since. Another relationship, dealt with other stressful things. But a year on and not a single migraine. She was the direct cause of them. That that is the reality keeps me strong. Keeps me no contact. Keeps me remembering what abuse does. And thank goodness I have no migraines!!!

Exactly like the title says. Being around a chronically upset person is so draining on your psychological health. Mine was a chronically online person, and if she couldn't find something in her present reality to be upset over, she'd literally just scroll the internet until she found something to make her upset and then take it out on me. Like, holy shit. Once I was just over at my place relaxing and suddenly she just storms in unannounced, starts yelling about some fight she was having in the comments of some shit, turns it into a fight with me, then turns that into an excuse to go visit some sketchy dude she hardly even knows because now she's upset at me. Uses that as leverage to force an apology out of me for the whole thing because I'm horrified at the idea of her spending a weekend with this guy.

Oh I'm so glad to not have her in my life. Everyday is a blessing to not have that energy in my life.

I think they won't really care about these bans and their idiot AI until it affects their bottom line. People say that the stock drop is linked to their increase use of AI. I'm hoping it's the beginning of the end