Demonization of anger
According to therapists, the only allowed expression of anger towards someone who absolutely humiliated you is "I'm mad at you 😤" in a calm, collected way. Any form of showing a spine and standing up for yourself (not even talking about name calling or berating that person or randomly lashing out at people or anything, just the person who hurt you) is bad because now you are being aggressive and actually SHOWED your anger and we don't do that here.
"Anger is not a BAD thing! It’s OKAY to be angry! It’s how you DEAL with anger that matters! There are healthy ways of coping with it!" ---- proceeds to tell me some shout in your pillow nonsense that results in endless coping for the rest of your life. Fuck off.
No wonder most people aren't actually healing from therapy when the solution to such a major part of recovery (going from fight response to rest) is to fucking cope. I'm not taking about going around raging and verbally abusing people. All "shout in pillow" when your anger is justified does is tell your subconscious that anger is bad and something to be hidden away. You can't heal if you are endlessly coping.