u/FunPatient1048

So to start off this story i come and visit my mom maybe once or twice a week and i bring my elderly cat, ive had her since i was 5 i am 18 turning 19 in october, we got my cat when she was 1, so she is pretty old, my moms cat is maybe like a “new adult”. The last time i visited my cat had an accident which she left for me to clean up(i had been asleep for 3 hours) and i was fine with that but she made it seem like it was the end of the world and started being pretty rude to my cat, pushing her off seats, couch, bean bag all places she was allowed to go before. Her cat yesterday peed in the sink, my cat has has two accidents in her house the other time she left it for me to clean up again and i wasn’t even there. mind you she lives with my two brothers and their gfs/ fiancée, one of my brothers has a baby and the other his fiancée is pregnant. she brushed off the fact her cat peed in the sink and we are having a problem with it because what if the baby’s bottle was in there or anything of the baby’s. TODAY her cat peed all over the kitchen. i wish i was lying, he peed all on the table, floor, island, and on my candy. she brushed it off and said it was fine. she continues to complain about the other cats in the house (my brothers cats) and when they have an accident, her cat is doing this on purpose because we have had this problem before because he is so territorial. she won’t do anything to help she makes me try to clean it up when he does something because he “love me more” she tries to make my brothers pregnant fiancée clean the cat littler and when both my brothers said no she threw a hissy fit and tried to set rules when everyone who lives here pays rent. just yesterday she mixed bleach and fabloso when the baby was in the house and wiped the whole floor with it, it smelt of toxic fumes and when we told her our concerns she told us to stop being dramatic and she was trying to get the house cleaned and tried to make us feel bad by saying she won’t clean anymore if it’s such a problem she tries to clean around the house. she constantly tried to minimize our concerns when we have a problem because she thinks she knows better than us because she has been alive much longer.

edit: yes i can get a portable litter box but i do not have money to afford one right now because i am out of a job, I clean my litter box out everyday at my house so she’s definitely used to a clean litter box. when i lived with my mom she would make me clean it everyday and her cats pee stinks so bad it’s actually disgusting that’s how we know it was him who peed everywhere in the kitchen because it stunk. We never cleaned the cat pee because we went to go visit my dad and when my brothers got back she had left it there all over the kitchen and told me my behavior is like my abusive dads because i called her out on making chlorine gas and “cleaning” the floor with it

(please excuse any grammar errors i have not slept a lot) okay i just wanna start this off with saying my friend and i are still in high school and both have jobs, granted i know with money i am pretty well off and i understand she’s not as fortunate. Okay so to start this off me and said friend went to the mall Friday on the 3rd. i was more than generous buying her a perfume from Victoria secret, buying her food and a bracelet from zumiez. i bought her the perfume because i wanted too im not asking her to pay me back for that what i am asking for her to pay me back is for the food i was never planning on buying her she only implied me WHEN we got to the register and the lady asked so i just said yes because my friend said nothing and after i said yes she said she will pay me back, I would also like to add on that we went to Zumiez. She picked out a bracelet and when we got to the register, she asked me if I could pay for her and so I just said yes, so she walked into Zumiez knowing she didn’t have the money or she didn’t wanna buy anything she saw something and asked me if I could buy it and after that we went to walmart where she got things and her card ended up not working there so she asked me if i had cash which i said yes to and she asked if i could pay since her card wasn’t working and that she would pay me back so i said okay and got her cashapp before she left the meet up.

Fast forward Saturday( i asked her when she’s able to pay me back and she responds with “it was supposed to be today had to help with my phone bill” which i never replied to because it was only the day after but today which is now Wednesday the 8th i sent her a text asking when she’s paying me back and she responded with “trust u are getting that one too lemme get paid again “ she’s says “you are getting that one too” because I had referred to the last time she never paid me back for when I was bringing energy drinks to school that she claimed she would pay me back for which obviously she never did and that was in 10th grade i’m now a senior .

With that being said i’m just worried she won’t pay me back and i feel terrible or even awkward asking her to pay me back, i don’t understand why she would buy the things she did knowing she was limited on money i was more than generous paying for her food even when i wasn’t planning on it because in all fairness i always bring money for food even if i don’t have any for shopping so that way i can eat, so i dont understand why she stayed quiet when asked if we were paying together and in walmart she bought like maybe $20 worth of stuff that she was never planning on getting anyways. i guess im just having a hard time comprehending the fact she knew she didn’t bring a lot of money yet spent way more money than she needed too. she’s never put me in this type of position before when we hung out until i got a job which is why i’m so fortunate to be able to buy the things i can now, but she also has a job. i’m not saying i need $20 bucks that bad im just more wanting her to understand i take people’s words seriously and it makes me loose a sense of trust when she keeps pushing the date off. so i genuinely don’t know if im asking too much of her and i just need to shut my mouth or if this is something i need to stand my ground with