u/Fun_Committee1478

Sorry I just want to complain. So I have this male friend who’s divorced. (No never dated, just a friend) he has 4 grown children (well two above 18, like 19 and 20 and the others are teens) so he has quite a bit of freedom.

I asked what he’s doing over the holiday weekend and they are going to another state to a theme park and a graduation of a family member. He said after they drive there tonight he might have his kids drop him at a bar and have them return to the hotel.

He’s always stating how much he loves his kids and how he’s a great dad etc. I made the mistake one time of stating I’m drowning. Twins under a year and another elementary aged kid. He was very quick to let me know how “great” parenthood is.

Now, I never knew him when he was married or when his kids were little. Maybe he had it tough too. I’m also aware that he’s the man in this scenerio and he likely did jack shit and his ex wife did all the child rearing, so I have to take what he says with a grain of salt.

But anyway ….. I just want to push fast forward on this season of life. I spend 12 to 16 hours with my kids without a break. Unable to even grab something in another room unless a baby is secured.

He told me that he “misses” when his kids were young and all I can think is “yeah right, why?”

I don’t know where I’m going with this post. They say not to wish it all away but I can’t help it. My twins nap opposite from each other, my older boy is always making a mess wherever he goes, my “break” consists of my husband taking the kids while I run to Walmart for groceries.

I hate this.

Thanks for letting me complain !!

Hi guys. So this week is Memorial Day. We have a pool. I told my friend that she should come by for a bbq. Her husband’s bday happens to fall on the same day. She wants to turn it into a party for him. Guys… this is weird to me. I barely know her husband. She has three kids, I have 3 kids, in kids alone that is a lot. She wants to invite another family I barely know who has 5 kids. Of course I’d be the one cooking, cleaning, buying everything and prepping.

I need a way to shut it down. I told her with it being the last week of school and my twin babies (10 months) is a lot for me. I can’t handle a shit load of people at my house right now. It’s exhausting. I told her we are having a bigger celebration for July 4th, but right now I just want to celebrate Memorial Day with just her?

Is there a better way to word this?? Why is it my problem to celebrate her husband?!?!?

Just want to complain. I made a post under my alternate account in a parenting sub. People were very know-it-ally and overall rude. A post I made very desperate for sleep. I even made an edit to list my babies health issues, doctors issues and no one read it.

Yall is parenting easy for everyone but me ?? I can’t talk about this stuff with anyone in my real life because they are just as “I’m such a great parent”. Nobody struggles with anything!!! I’m just astounded. It was parent sub so I don’t even know if it was moms only or dads too.

Kind of disappointed there is no support anywhere. That post is now deleted.

Anyway, thank you to this sub for always being kind even when the OP is going through a rough time.

I mostly need to vent with this post. But I’m struggling with twins to the point I wish we didn’t have them, or only one.

They never fucking sleep!!! Well one sleeps, but the other one, she sleeps anywhere from 30 minute intervals to 2 hours max. And that’s IF I’m lucky. She’s on baby purées which I was hoping would keep her full and we’d get a longer stretch… nope.

Last night I was up at 2:30 feeding her a baby puree. She doesn’t have teeth yet so she can’t eat solids. After that I had about 2.5 hour stretch of sleep.

Even naps sucks. They never nap at the same tine. One is always crying and fussing. They are 10 months old 7 months adjusted. As of this week, they’ve been hone 6 months from the NICU.

WHEN does it ever get easier ???!!! I’m trying to keep them stimulated throughout the day, take them on outtings to tire them out. They’re never tired out!!!!

I almost called my mom yesterday to come watch them so I can sleep. I’m grumpy, depressed, I look like I’ve aged a ton in these last 6 months. I’m starting to hate parenthood. I have an older son who’s 6 and he’s fun and easy, so I know it doesn’t suck forever.

Edit: not looking for advice. It’s been a hard few days and just want solidarity I suppose. I hope I’m not the only one struggling :-(