My husband (25M) has been cheating on my while I (22F) am pregnant with his child
Im going to make this very clear this is a repost of my original post that has been removed from here due to not following community guidelines with the question I’m asking. My question and reason for make this post is how can I leave and if I do how should I go about it? since I live in America and giving birth is extremely expensive I can only afford it with his health insurance and won’t be able to afford it without
Wednesday may 20- Hi, so I’m new here, and as the title says, my husband has been cheating on me while I’m 6 months pregnant. I’m not going to disclose any information that could possibly give away mine or my husband’s identity, but just know I’m a 22F and my husband is 25M. We’ve been together for 7 years and married for 3.
At the time of posting this, I’m 6 months pregnant with our first baby, and I recently found out that my husband has been cheating on me with multiple different people. He has also had sex with several of them without a condom, causing one of them to believe she was pregnant with his child (she wasn’t). But if she had been, she would have gotten pregnant around the exact same time as me.
The only reason I even found out about all of this was because I got a call from my OB saying that I tested positive for chlamydia. At the time, it didn’t make sense since I’m not active with anyone but him. I asked him why I would test positive if I was only sleeping with him, and he told me that a while back he slept with a woman he met at a bar without a condom. He said he was sorry and never intended for it to happen, let alone get chlamydia and give it to me.
Obviously, I was devastated. I asked if he had been doing this with anybody else, and he said no, but I didn’t believe him. So I went through his phone while he was asleep and found multiple different people he’s been sleeping with. I reached out to them and told them not only that he was married and that I was pregnant, but also that he had chlamydia. Most of them were disgusted by him and his actions. (Note: two girls didn’t care and also didn’t believe me.) I confronted my husband with everything I found. At first, he denied everything, but later confessed to it all.
I’m so heartbroken and devastated by everything that’s been going on. I have no friends here, and I don’t like getting my family involved in everything. Another issue is that everything is in his name, so without him I don’t have a car or a house. (The reason nothing is in my name is because he’s military and we live on base, so the house is primarily in his name and I’m just listed as a tenant. I also use his car to get to work and back. He’s had the car longer than we’ve been married, so it’s only in his name.) Before people comment saying, “If he’s military, all you have to do is tell his command and he’ll get kicked out,” I wish it worked that way, but it doesn’t unless you have undeniable proof of the affair, like pictures or videos of them together—not just text messages. I’ve spoken to a couple of people who divorced over similar situations, and they all said the same thing.
(Note: my husband has never really been the sexually active type. Most of the time I’m the one in the mood, so seeing that this apparently isn’t the case has been another heartbreak.)
(Note: I suffer from severe depression and anxiety, and I’m very codependent on him. I know it’s not healthy, but I’ve been through a lot and he’s always been there to help me, so I rely heavily on him for emotional stability.)
Also, his family and mine are pretty close since we had known each other for a while before we started dating.
Friday may 22nd-things have gotten even worse. While my husband was asleep, I went through his phone again and found messages between him and another girl where he said he wanted to leave me for her, that he was willing to ruin his life for her, and that she meant everything to him. He talked about continuing a relationship with her and even said he was disgusted by me and didn’t want to be around me. There is another female that told him she wanted him to get her pregnant, he agreed to it and actually brought he into the house at night while I was asleep and they had sex in the guest bedroom after have sex with her he came back to bed and fell asleep beside me when I woke up and found those messages I had no clue she was still sleeping in my house till I actually walked into the guest bedroom and found her asleep in the bed and I’m not gonna lie I completely flipped my shit and lost it on her a kicked her out and was very close to just beating her ass with the car tools we have in the house like a wrench and a tire iron. The worse part of that was she knows me personally and has met me multiple times recently and is very well aware that I’m not only his wife but I’m pregnant with his baby.
He has also gone to another person’s house and slept with her multiple times this week, and he was actually planning to meet her when he got off work today but didn’t. I confronted him with the evidence, and he confessed that it was all true.
I don’t know what to do with this information. Since finding this out, I’ve asked him why he has done this to me and our baby, and he said it’s because he’s tired of everything. I also asked him why he stopped having sex with me even before I got pregnant. He told me the reason was because I was gaining weight and he didn’t like it.
I have never been small, but I definitely wasn’t massive before pregnancy. Before I got pregnant, I was around 165–170 lbs, and now during this pregnancy I’ve gained weight, like normal, and I’m around 190 lbs.
I truly don’t know what to think or do anymore. I can’t go back to my parents because my stepdad is abusive, and I would rather not put my unborn baby in that position.
Also I will note that I’m the one to do all the house work like cooking cleaning doing laundry and taking care of our pets even though I also have a full time job in housekeeping so I clean all day at work then go home to do it all again at home
TL;DR: I’m 22 and 6 months pregnant with my first baby. I recently found out my 25-year-old husband, who I’ve been with for 7 years and married to for 3, has been cheating on me with multiple women. I found out after my OB told me I tested positive for chlamydia, even though I’ve only been with him.
At first, he admitted to only one affair, but after going through his phone I found out there were multiple women involved. Some of them didn’t even know he was married or that I was pregnant. One woman thought she might be pregnant by him around the same time I got pregnant.
Things got even worse after I found messages where he said he wanted to leave me for another woman, that he was disgusted by me, and that he would rather be with her. He also agreed when another woman asked him to get her pregnant. At one point, he even brought one of these women into our home while I was asleep.
When I confronted him, he admitted everything. He later told me he stopped being attracted to me because I gained weight during pregnancy.
I feel completely devastated and alone. I don’t have friends or family I can safely stay with, I rely heavily on him emotionally because of my depression and anxiety, and we live on base and everything is in his name so I can’t just leave that easily. I’m asking for way to leave and how should I do it