u/Funny_Can7504

My daughter school is having a fundraiser. We are a New York City public school also a title one school.

My daughter came home the other day and said that the PE teacher had all the students in her fourth grade class and asked who had donated and made them raise their hands and also asked whose parents went to the expensive spring fling. She then proceeded to lecture them about how disappointed she was in them and their families about how few students in the class participated.

Verify the story with two other parents. They also said that one of the fourth grade boys ask the teacher if they could stop talking about the fundraiser and actually do PE and he was told no and that they needed to understand how it felt to not support the school.

This was about two weeks ago, fast-forward to now the fundraiser is still happening, but now the classes are having individual students sign a poster when it's been verified that their families have donated and emails are going out thinking the students who have donated with a list of all of the students names.

None of this is sitting right with me, especially knowing that there are many kids in the school who socioeconomic status most likely doesn't allow for their families to donate and or participate in a spring fling.

The gym teacher situation was about two weeks ago, and I haven't had a chance to schedule a meeting. I am free tomorrow. Should I go speak to the principal about this? It seems like no other parent has the time and or energy to speak to the principal and have all said that they would support it and are also outraged.

My daughter school is having a fundraiser. We are a New York City public school also a title one school.

My daughter came home the other day and said that the PE teacher had all the students in her fourth grade class and asked who had donated and made them raise their hands and also asked whose parents went to the expensive spring fling. She then proceeded to lecture them about how disappointed she was in them and their families about how few students in the class participated.

Verify the story with two other parents. They also said that one of the fourth grade boys ask the teacher if they could stop talking about the fundraiser and actually do PE and he was told no and that they needed to understand how it felt to not support the school.

This was about two weeks ago, fast-forward to now the fundraiser is still happening, but now the classes are having individual students sign a poster when it's been verified that their families have donated and emails are going out thinking the students who have donated with a list of all of the students names.

None of this is sitting right with me, especially knowing that there are many kids in the school who socioeconomic status most likely doesn't allow for their families to donate and or participate in a spring fling.

The gym teacher situation was about two weeks ago, and I haven't had a chance to schedule a meeting. I am free tomorrow. Should I go speak to the principal about this? It seems like no other parent has the time and or energy to speak to the principal and have all said that they would support it and are also outraged.

Thoughts?

UPDATE- spoke to the principal. She was pretty appalled. Planning to address the gym teacher and send a message to the rest of the staff about how to promote the fundraiser without singling families out. She said they are supposed to be promoting celebrating/signing up for the event itself not the donations. I am satisfied with the response.

okay this might be a weird question but

how do you know when something that happened at school is a say something situation vs a let it go situation??

asking because something happened a few weeks ago at my children's school and i STILL don’t know what the right call was. i didn’t say anything but not sure if that was the right move or if i just talked myself out of it because it felt easier...

part of me thinks i’m too in my head about this stuff and always assuming the worst... part of me thinks that’s exactly what i’m supposed to think so i don’t say anything. you know?

do other people have a way of actually deciding or is this just a constant feeling?! Does anyone have a good system or method to check themselves?